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20 May 2016, 10:40 am

I am curious if anyone knows the reason why people say hi in a superficial tone?

It sounds like "Hi..yih."

I have never understood what that means



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20 May 2016, 4:49 pm

Maybe they are tired or in a bad mood. It might also be a fake hi.



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20 May 2016, 5:03 pm

Might be a ? 8)


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20 May 2016, 7:32 pm

I need to hear to understand it. From what you're saying it sounds like just a very informal, relaxed hi, but I'm not sure.


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22 May 2016, 1:35 am

You mean like "hiya"? That's just a shortened way of saying "hi, you", or "hey, you". Maybe that's not what you mean though.



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22 May 2016, 9:08 am

Perhaps a step above a slight head nod while passing you.


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22 May 2016, 9:19 am

I don't know anyone that says "hiya". Most people I know either say "hi ya doin" or something along those lines. I guess that is kinda similiar but whether its "how ya doin" or "hi ya doin" its seems more genuine then "hiya".



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22 May 2016, 9:24 am

Perhaps it is as my magic magnifying mind does
"a Shakespeare - Much ado about nothing"


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22 May 2016, 9:43 am

the expression "hi" is just a minor impediment to the general procedure of my intentions.
i acknowledge it but i can not respond to it with enthusiasm, so i mainly ignore it and "get down to business".

http://www.soundclick.com/player/single ... 34983&q=hi



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23 May 2016, 9:32 am

I just spent a few minutes looking for examples on youtube and got nowhere. I was probably searching for the wrong words.

I would say that if you're even asking this question, you know that there is something abnormal in the greeting. So this person is either being false or looking for attention. Now, when I say "looking for attention" it could be something innocent, such as that their cat just died and they want to talk about it, but aren't sure if they want to burden you. It could also be malicious, such as that they are trying to communicate that they don't really want to talk to you. Who knows? We can't put in good guesses from the information you provided. We'd need a video of it, really, and obviously you can't get that. But for you to make a thread about this, you already know that it is not a normal "hi."

If this is happening often enough to be a problem, you could make a point to ask the person, "How are you doing?" or "Is everything okay?" If they act like that was a strange question, you would then say, "Just making sure" and then you'd smile and change the subject. What this does is deflect any possible malice on their part. It clear that 1) you are noticing their abnormal "hi," 2) you are a nice person, who is concerned about others, and 3) you're not interested in any other reason for the abnormal "hi."



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23 May 2016, 9:38 am

If it's "hi-ya," it's a very informal "hi." Not negative in the least. Could be positive, actually.



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23 May 2016, 10:06 am

I was taught to acknowledge anyone that looks you in the eye I usally say Hi or how ya doing but I'm pretty country everyone greets everyone it's just a sign of respect and if its a guy you shake hands if it is a lady you remove your hat and speak it isjust respect.


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25 May 2016, 5:03 am

Cheyenne.m wrote:
I was taught to acknowledge anyone that looks you in the eye I usally say Hi or how ya doing but I'm pretty country everyone greets everyone it's just a sign of respect and if its a guy you shake hands if it is a lady you remove your hat and speak it isjust respect.


I usually don't acknowledge people who just look me in the eye. Is one actually supposed to say hi to whoever looks you in the eye?



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25 May 2016, 5:27 am

i wonder how many calories it takes for the average person to pull a surprised face and say "hi" in an elevated and jovial way?

however many calories it takes them, they are all wasted on me because i do not register anything from it except for the acknowledgment that they are operating on their expected autopilots.

p1:"hi there!!"
p2:"yep.. good. acknowledged"

tones of voice are often consciously manipulated by speaking people, and that makes them fake.
what is a "tone of voice" except for a quasi "musicalization" of oration based upon an emotional muse the speaker entertains?

honest tones of voice are not easy for me to identify.
they are unmodulated and spontaneous and pleasant to understand, but they are hard to distinguish from fake voices except for my feeling of belief in them or the lack of it.

i hate dancing because i see it as just a routine of movement that is followed no matter what one currently feels like doing with their feet.

most social interaction is like a kind of emotional dancing which is just a routine that follows a protocol.

saying "hi" when one enters a store to someone who one does not know is just a social dance.
smiling with no reason to smile is also just a "move" in a social dance.

so people get offended when you don't want to dance.
"just dance with someone else then" i sometimes think when i am chastised for my rudeness.



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25 May 2016, 5:03 pm

There is a specific way I have heard people say hi which is very superficial and dragged out and then the other party doesn't seem to want to talk.

I recorded this so people would be able to distinguish what I mean. (I said my twitter page name).


https://www.speakpipe.com/voice-recorde ... ej64ve0h14