I need some advice!

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So I have more than one question so I am just going to number them.

1. My mom wants to sign me up for an out of school social group. I have been in in school social groups before but never one outside of a school environment. What should I expect? How will it be different or the same?

2. So I went to a person's house and it was extremely aukward. I was shy and uncomfortable the whole time. The problem is that they have asked to go with a movie with them and I don't know how to say no I also don't know if it is a date or not. I am not attracted to them and it's causing me a lot of anxiety

So that is all

It sounds like your mother is trying to get you engaged in the community so you can get comfortable to people in the real world.

Social skills:
1. Introduce yourself
2. Find a common interest
3. No personal information but rather find out about the other people in your group and don't ask for any
4. No hogging the conversation
5. No interviewing someone by asking all the questions
6. Take turns with the activities while getting to know the other people
7. Research some positive and different topics to engage in

Regards to going over to someone's house:
1. You can be shy but one thing to keep in mind - At a party you can mingle by quietly walking up to a group of people talking and wait for them to finish and acknowledge you. You can also say "Would it be alright for me to join in on the conversation?" Apply all of the above.

Thank you so much I will use your advice. I do tend to hog the conversation or not really talk at all (I am a person of extremes) I will try to use this to maybe make some friends.

I do too but I here is a tip by another aspie who has his own website on developing social skills. His name is Daniel Wendler. This is on dominating the conversation.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-0CKYOwk78

Another thing to look for is when someone says "Excuse me but can I interrupt? I would like a chance to talk.