"huh" and "what"

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Since 15, it's been a pet peeve of mine hearing annoying lil dips**ts act like every thought and emotion that goes through their heads, are the latest greatest scientific invention. They talk too much, too loud, and too enthusiastically. Sometimes they talk too much i get a f*****g headache. (paucity of content). It's f*****g annoying to listen to those ass holes flap their stupidass traps. And then when i try to say the slightest thing, those idiots half listen and grunt "huh" and "what" instead of "excuse me". They act like "huh" and "what" are the etiquette equivalent of "excuse me". They get on my f*****g nerves, s**t. "Excuse me" might not even be in their stupidass vocabulary. When my "parents" were still alive, plenty of times, i asked them to say "excuse me" instead of "ha?" and not once did they do it. Not only that, but they had the nerve to laugh @ me. (rolls eyes). If someone "knew" they had to say "excuse me" instead of just "huh" or "what" maybe they would listen more carefully in the first place, s**t! My "parents" dropped dead in 2020 and 2015 and i still think about their refusal to say "excuse me" several times a day. My former "friends", Anthony T. and Dena, and Cory, all had the nerve to refuse to say "excuse me" instead of "huh" or "what".

Yes, they have freedom of speech, but "actions speak louder than words". If they are not willing to do that simple lil thing, then there is no limit to the number of things they are not willing to do for me. And i do not feel like those idiots "cared" about me. meanwhile, they did whatever the f**k they wanted and insisted they were my "friends" and they "helped" me and "cared" about me. f**k that BS! f**k anthony! f**k dena! f**k cory!

and the home depot employees and customers. been working there over four years. only about four times has someone said "excuse me" to me. idiots often said "huh" and "what". rude, uneducated, curt, entitled, stupid ass holes! but "customer always right". plenty of home depot customers don't speak english, don't listen, don't pay attention. loud music and sometimes have to "talk" to someone far away. and they don't wear hearing aids.

s**t!

It must be very difficult going through life getting upset about stuff like that and hanging onto it for such a long time. Have you found anything helpful when it comes to managing your frustration? “Huh” and “what” are frequently used because they adequately convey the meaning the speaker wants to get across. It’s not necessarily about being poorly educated. The way I talk is very different from the way I write academic papers.

princess

"Have you found anything helpful when it comes to managing your frustration?"

i tell myself that precious lil "people" have "freedom of speech".

"pick your battles" is good advice, but some annoying lil dips**ts pick ALL the battles.

"thin line between love and hate". love and hate are not opposites. they are very similar. so when i hate something/someone too much, i think about how "hate" is not a good/bad thing and "love" is not good/bad either. so i try not to "love" or "hate" anyone/anything too much. but, "you can do anything you set your mind to" is not correct, b/c i often fail, even @ the easiest things.

“Huh” and “what” are frequently used because they adequately convey the meaning the speaker wants to get across.
that is one possible reason. there could be plenty of different reasons. another reason: b/c the speaker is too arrogant to say "excuse me". another reason: b/c the speaker's vocabulary does not contain "excuse me".

"It’s not necessarily about being poorly educated." Plenty of academically educated precious lil "people" say "huh", "what", "can you" and are otherwise rude, impatient, entitled, self righteous, and self important. (fine). however, all things equal, it appears to me that the more educated someone is, the more often they say "excuse me" or "sorry". (not a representative sample) (not a controlled experiment).

"It must be very difficult going through life getting upset about stuff like that and hanging onto it for such a long time." "very difficult"? granted. however, plenty of things making my stupidass "life" "very difficult": being chinese and dealing with racism, being transsexual and dealing w/homophobia, earning minimum wage and trying to pay for s**t, being exhausted all the time, PTSD, clinical depression, autism.

It's been a long, tough week, so thank you for making my troubles seem like small potatoes in the grand scheme of things.

I remember one of my primary school teachers detuning students from being overly polite, although I'm not sure why.
His response to "I beg your pardon" was "Dogs beg!"
"Excuse me" was a request for permission to leave the classroom, and "Pardon me" got the reply "You're not on death row"
I tend to only use "Huh?" as a shorthand for "That didn't make sense" and only use "What" if I'm angry.
I'll often use "Répétez, s'il vous plaît" if I misheard something, or if impatient "¿Que?"

Carbonhalo

I have not once heard anyone that appeared to be a k-12 student say "I beg your pardon" or "pardon me"

But maybe your situation was in a different year and different state than I was

That's funny!
For starters, I'm on the other side of the planet where we're taught English as opposed to American.
Secondly, look upon my age and tremble, for death and decay come also for thee.

Where, when, and how did you ever get the idea that "huh" and "what" are rude responses if someone doesn't understand what you are saying?

I don't consider "huh" and "what" to be a rude response to me, if someone doesn't understand what I am saying. Neither does my partner, who has a speech impairment and therefore is often misunderstood.

Yes, "excuse me" is more polite, and so is "Could you please repeat that?" But I don't consider "what"/"huh" to be offensive.

A truly rude (and bigoted) response would be: "Speak English!" Even ruder (and more bigoted) would be: "Go back to whatever country you came from!" My partner has been told the latter a lot (even though he was born here in the U.S.A. and has at least one ancestor who arrived on the Mayflower over 400 years ago).

My partner has lived in many different places in the U.S.A. Our neighborhood, here in NYC, is one of the few places where he has NOT frequently been told things like, "Go back to whatever country you came from!"

I was told "Go back to England." a couple of times by my peers in high school. Being asked huh or what are nothing compared to what I was told.

While everyone have pet peeves and hot buttons, I am going to go ahead and be honest with you. While I hear you, I feel like you tend to get offended over silly things and tend to leave negative posts.

it just seems like if annoying lil insects knew they had to say "excuse me" instead of just "huh" or "what", maybe they would listen more carefully. but that is just "my" (minority) opinion. it is not a fact, a law, a "proof", a social norm, or a PubMed article, or anything like that.

eight billion precious lil "people" in the galaxy. "logic could be used to justify anything". they have "freedom of speech", but "actions speak louder than words."

talking takes way too much energy for me. (vocal cord damage)

it just gets on my nerves. annoying having to repeat myself so much when some cockroaches have the nerve to grunt "huh" or "what" instead of "excuse me".

Mona

Last year I disclosed autism at work and got accommodations . Only Human resources and ASM javier were at the meeting and it was javiers last day.

But no, my coworkers are not aware that talking is hard for me

if they knew they had to say "excuse me" instead of "huh" or "what", maybe they would listen more carefully.

but only a couple people have been willing to do that:
high school classmate
former counselor jeanne
former aikido instructor

while plenty of centipedes had the nerve to refuse
old man and old woman
dena
anthony

but the vast majority of skunks, i don't even feel comfortable asking.

my old woman had the nerve to laugh @ me. i kept reminding her. but maybe i didn't explain clearly enough. she dropped dead 2015. it is now 2026. i still think about the "huh" and "what" refusal every day, even though (or maybe because) she is now dead.

so many spiders have the nerve to tell me they are my "friend", "care" about me, "help" me. whatever. but "actions speak louder than words". those insects are hypocrites. they speak vague and misleading statements. they have the nerve to put on "smoke and mirrors" but they are not even willing to do the slightest thing for me. they just want credit for doing nothing.