Will I regret it if I don't go on a lads holiday?

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I never went on a lads holiday at the end of my college or uni terms but I seem to feel as though everyone did these things whilst at or at the end of college or uni and I seem to think ridiculously that I'm regretting not going wild on these things and getting drunk like mad and having lots of sex and so on. I remember a guy explaining about how young people now don't seem to do things like this than they used to and that it's like the only great time because life catches up with us and lots of things to think about when getting older. I feel like that just aggravates the FOMO even more as though it's the "norm" and that I'm a "social outcast" if I don't.

As I've said before I never liked clubbing and I like a drink but I always drink responsibly on occasions. If I did always get drunk and party a lot, would it make me feel less regretful than if I didn't ?

I don't know, yes, no, maybe? This is really a personal decision to make. You may regret it, or you might look back years later and not even remember not going. I haven't personally regretted not doing so, although I think I should have gone on more road trips.

I would never in my life have wanted to go on a 'lads holiday'. The whole idea seems absolutely horrendous.

Do you have any lads?

Not sure what you mean by that!

It's a pretty straight forward question.

But, if you ain't got no lads, going on a lads holiday isn't an option.

I was referring to a time when I would've been in the 'lads' or 'young man' bracket. Such a situation no longer applies, unfortunately.

The whole attitude reminds me of:

Of course it would be horrendous, it's not an available option so imagining it must be terrible helps cope.

Last edited by funeralxempire on 21 May 2025, 5:30 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Lads holiday sounds like my worst nightmare..

Do it because you want to go on a "lads holiday". Rather than some type of weird bucket list.
these things from my experience are better if you organically get on with "the boys" rather than insert yourself into a group (in the latter scenario you'll just be a 5th wheel).

I'm not a fan of drunk lads but I've been through this phase so I can't be judgemental, Do what you feel (just minimise the level of public nuisance )

You answered your own question. You don’t like what you don’t like. Doing it to extreme means more of doing what you don’t like.

Doing something because everybody else does it is the worst reason to do anything.

Too many autistics feel that getting drunk and loosening inhibitions will get rid of fear of failure in social situations. They are right. What they do not take into account is that loosening inhibitions makes autistic traits more prominent, thus increasing the chance of making more social errors.

As you are not a heavy drinker you probably have low tolerance for alcohol meaning you will lose control faster than the other partiers. A lot of men attracted to these lad or bro gatherings measure manliness based on ability to hold alcohol.