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princesseli
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18 Jan 2008, 5:45 am

My cousins having a wedding so Im having to see all these family members that I dont really know. All they know is that Im in college right now. Right now Im home but Im going back soon. They keep asking me "hows college", "you like it". Well my first semester of college truthfully didnt go down that well for me. So I dont really know what to say to them. I dont wanna be honest and say bad. So normally I either say something like, its ok or I outright lie. It makes me uncomfortable when sometimes afterwards there like "So your adjusting well" when Im not. So what do I say to them thats not lying, not giving them the wrong impression but thats not being bluntfully truthful?



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18 Jan 2008, 5:55 am

How about:
"Well, it's been an educational experience. Tell me about your first semester in college. Is there anything you would like to do over again?"



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18 Jan 2008, 11:28 am

when i went to my sisters wedding last october thankfully they got married on the beach so after i walked my sister down the isle i ditched the event and went swimming


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18 Jan 2008, 4:01 pm

princesseli wrote:
So what do I say to them thats not lying, not giving them the wrong impression but thats not being bluntfully truthful?


You could say something like..."It's been ok, all though some things could have been better".


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18 Jan 2008, 9:57 pm

Oh I hate when I get that question. I hate having to lie too. Sometimes I be like "Well............it's okay." and I make this face like it's not all that okay. I know they don't really care about how it's going so I've tried to just stop caring about having to lie about it.



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18 Jan 2008, 10:44 pm

Usually when family members I don't know talk to me, I usually just answer all their questions with "good" or "ok"

unless you're actually looking to have a conversation with these people, take ^2's advice, otherwise i'd just say, it's going good, yeah i like it.



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20 Jan 2008, 2:52 am

Well I just came back from the wedding and it wasnt too bad it was just a bit boring. I was pretty antisocial the entire time like I always am at these events. Its just that there was sorta a predinner a few days ago, it was a bit smaller and it was ackward n when people kept asking me those type questions. But lucky me I had something else so I only stayed for less then a hour. Well I have another cousin thats getting married in August and Im probably gonna have to attend it despite that theres some tention between us.