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AroDweeb64
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27 Jan 2026, 2:26 pm

Because of my autism, height and cleft palate



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27 Jan 2026, 7:05 pm

I hope you feel better soon.


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27 Jan 2026, 10:00 pm

Put yourself in their shoes.

Why would any of those things make people want to hurt you unprovoked?


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27 Jan 2026, 10:47 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Put yourself in their shoes.

Why would any of those things make people want to hurt you unprovoked?


I am not and do not look normal.



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27 Jan 2026, 11:38 pm

what do you think about learning martial arts or self-defence?



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27 Jan 2026, 11:57 pm

AroDweeb64 wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Put yourself in their shoes.

Why would any of those things make people want to hurt you unprovoked?


I am not and do not look normal.


For most people, in particular adults not looking normal isn't enough to cause them to become violent.

It might be enough to make them act rudely, but rarely will it cause them to physically attack another.

That's why I suggest trying to view it from the perspective of an average person. The average adult has developed all sorts of more socially acceptable responses to the existence and presence of people they find unsettling than physical violence.

Beyond that, in situations with other adults a significant portion are more likely to be pitying than provoked to any sort of hostile response.


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28 Jan 2026, 12:22 am

auntblabby wrote:
what do you think about learning martial arts or self-defence?

I was just about to suggest the same thing.