03 Jan 2008, 12:35 pm
03 Jan 2008, 12:46 pm
I can feel and observe the situation and my behaviour and take notes, but I seem unable to change it drastically. At the end of each day, I see a scale inside my head of how I did that day. In the last few weeks, only two days have been positive. My thoughts also tend to dwell around everything I screwed up.
Stimming and music help, but don't take the problem away. I also often get too stuck on a physical level, simply unable to make myself stim with the finger weighing 500 kilograms.
Someone else with any advice or experiences to share?
YES; I have advice. STOP judging yourself. STOP trying to change your behaviors. ACCEPT yourself (as I am also trying to accept myself). See my post here: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt52557.html
If music and stimming help, do your best to use those things. I think we are made to enjoy music/vibrations more than NTs. I'm a musician myself, and I find myself rocking and moving to music much more than other people; I think it's just the way we are made. It's a gift!
03 Jan 2008, 12:56 pm
YES; I have advice. STOP judging yourself. STOP trying to change your behaviors. ACCEPT yourself (as I am also trying to accept myself). See my post here: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt52557.html
If music and stimming help, do your best to use those things. I think we are made to enjoy music/vibrations more than NTs. I'm a musician myself, and I find myself rocking and moving to music much more than other people; I think it's just the way we are made. It's a gift!
Thank you.
As much as I'd like to bring up the way I feel better after a 'positive' day, I realize that the bad feeling comes from my own thoughts. I make myself feel bad by treating things as such.
03 Jan 2008, 1:04 pm
I know, but don't blame yourself for everything. Yes, our "moods" come from inside ourselves, BUT there are a lot of external things too. I used to buy into all this stuff about changing your thoughts to be happy. Yes, there is some truth in it, but there is no magic switch.
I would say... be gentle with yourself. Try it!
03 Jan 2008, 1:06 pm
03 Jan 2008, 1:53 pm
Yeah, that's kinda the same as I feel. Online I can be consistent, make plans and stick to them, and write so much better than I could ever speak. (Though sometimes I get distracted with a blog and don't close it till I read it thoroughly ) IRL I get forgetful and fleeting, and if there's nothing *really* interesting (such as an essay project I'm driven to do, or a book that sucks me in), I just stand and stim and children's songs get stuck and repeated in my head all day.
Things that help that in my case:
Sleeping more (though it's hard to stop racing thoughts....:-/)
Keeping sugar consumption low
Not giving a s**t about what NPCs (people who don't really know me) think
When it's available (so, when school's out) I'm active at night, it's much easier and full of inspiration for some reason
Reading is always a great wind-down activity at the end of a long day
These prevent most of the careless mistakes and the doom-and-gloom days, although not all.
03 Jan 2008, 3:24 pm
Well I know I often feel more comfortable online meself.
Bad thoughts can be a problem for aspies and a hinderance...
But always remember that there's a plus side to intense analyzing.
In any case, I hope all is swell man.
