When all you're good at doing is offending people

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In a near-manic surge of energy, I posted about a petition to the UN asking it to grant minority status to everyone on the autistic spectrum. And I just had to name it something that would offend people. But I had no idea that what I was going to upset anyone. I can't believe that I made such a ret*d as*hole out of myself.

I hereby disown that post.

But this part of a bigger problem. My whole life, I've been good at getting scolded at and abused, to the point where I wished I could run away, build a log cabin, and forget everyone else on the planet. But then my desire for social interaction just had to kick in. Now I can't tune myself out when I'm around other people.

So how do you stop being so good at something that isn't so good, such as the title of this post?

Alienating people is my speciality too. I can't believe how perfect I am at it. It never fails me, however much I walk on egg-shells around them. I've given up trying anymore after I got fired from my job after giving it my LIFE for 1 year and being careful about every single thing I said and did.

So how do you get along with no friends? At one time, I could do that just fine. But that ability seems to have worn itself out.

Not even family want me around, let alone friends.

I enjoy life very much on my own. I don't even miss relationships with people anymore. The little interactions at work and elsewhere are enough. I suffered a lot for years, but nowadays I'm used to it. It's been months since last time I craved company. I thought it could never happen to me, because I needed people so much. But nowadays my interests fill me and fulfill me, fortunately. And I enjoy immensely the not having to put up with all the abuse and abandonment that I used to bring out of people. See, for me, people have always been the source of great pain. Nothing else was ever so painful as relationships for me.

It is not a bad thing to yearn for human fellowship.

I have this gift/curse as well. I offend people all the time, and I usually don't even know about it until they start acting differently when they're around me, or when I try talking to them. There is some sort of "social filter", that I was born without. There are lines that I cross, without knowing, that many people are offended by. I can't help it. I guess I'll just have to learn to deal with it on my own terms.

I disagree with the petition and I disagree even more strongly with you characterizing yourself as a ret*d as*hole. Since we are almost all on the spectrum here then lets just call it a family disagreement and let it go for now. I don't want you to disown your post unless you no longer agree with it.
This is a good place for you to get social interaction and meet people who understand your condition on a very visceral level since we have been living with the same types of social snafus as you have.

Dude, that's not so bad. There's worse things you can do on the internet, to the point of getting them mad enough (over the internet) to want you sued, in economic ruin and arrested and sent to federal prison. Titling it something that might be 'offensive' isn't that.

EDIT: I see no problem with what you put or how you put it. Especially given it's a petition others made.

Also, what's with the wrongplanet vs. AFF stuff/arguments/.etc.


Reminds me of the TOTSE vs. Rotteneggs issues (or TOTSE vs Bombshock wars) The reference bolded is an obscure internet reference to a site that is decently influential. They helped to make up the Jenkem joke[b]

EDIT 2: OP, you do know there were many people siding with you so yes it's a personal opinion and the like.

EDIT 3: well I know in that space opera the Neoridiversity Union would have several autistic-majority member states.

That's me, exactly. Very well explained.

I must thank you all for your support. I just take things personally too often. That has always been a bad habit of mine.

One day I decided to check to see how the petition was going, and I saw that people had left three pages worth of comments on it. And most of them seemed to be negative, or headed in that way. I thought "Good grief, John, you are upseting people!" And I'm not the type that likes to spread anger, I'm not a fan of violence in any way, shape, or form. I believe that many things in the world need change, and anger seems to get in the way of it.