My mom blew a chance at a 500 hundred dollar grant.

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THe director of the aspergers support group sent my mom a email about a 500 dollar grant last month or the month before. SHe did her usually thing and put it off for it off forever. Now she gets around to doing it and it turns out they stopped accepting applications in the first 15 days.
This kinda stupid stuff burns me up. She has been like this my whole life, never been able to just get up and do something and when she does do something she stops doing it after a couple days. SHe has absouletly no executive functioning.

yet you are fed and clothed and slept under a roof last night and even have electricity and a computer with access to the internet! amazing!
I'll bet you have even gone to school.
Merle

uhm my naturopath and therapist bills can run into the thousands per month and they are not covered by insurance.

Thousands a month? Why aren't you working to cover these bills? And what the heck is wrong with you that costs thousands of dollars a month?

And if she has a problem with executive function, wow-sounds like she needs more help than you do. So have a little compassion, pal. You're getting taken care of. Who's taking care of her? Or is she your slave?

How old are you anyway to have any gripe about this? If you're a kid, that's her damn prerogative. And if you're grown, why aren't you applying for the grant?

And if insurance doesn't cover your treatment, I have a sneaky suspicion there's a reason why.

Metta, anyway, and you should appreciate what your mom is able to do. If all you can moan and complain about is this grant, she must be a pretty good mom otherwise.


From a grown-up with actual problems, like your mom.

For your information i have been forciblily psychiatricly medicated for the last six years, more or less at the behest of my parents for no good reason, i have been hospitalized 5 times in two and half years 3 times ending in a state facility. I have had every negative and toxic reaction known to man and my brain is largely broke. I have severe memory, neurocognitve and nueropsycholic damage rendereing me pretty much incapable of doing most basic tasks im 26. My mother is now sorry she did what she did and is she is deseperatly trying to fix the damage. Its a pretty big deal for me if i am able to pick up my clothes or shave. im the recovery process and its getting better very slowly. BIg pharma is exceedly politically power and has been very succefull blocking access to holistic treatments(wich are the only thing that can heal psyche drug damage). I have to take about 50-60 supplements and herbs a day just to remain stable, and the slightlest amount of stress or disruption of my schedual(especially sleep) will send me into a tail spin that will last weeks.

and yet despite all this your mother is still trying to do her best to care for you and no doubt pay the bills. This is the second post where someone who is not independent is slagging off their carers..
Sounds to me like your mother is struggling .. perhaps a little caring on your part would not go astray. At 26 complaining that your mother cannot get herself organised, this seems pretty weak. I assume she is supporting you at the moment ?

I honestly am beginning to wonder if my own son will stand up as an adult and tell me what a crappy job I am doing , after pouring years of my life into loving, providing for, and doing my best despite huge stresses in my life that no doubt he is unaware of.

Guess there are a lot of cases of " biting the hand that feeds you" around.

you dont quite get it. they didnt just screw up. They abused me for years, especially my father. My father and brother were in the habit of beating the crap out of me and then my mother would make up lies to the police to have me locked up.l

we understand a lot more than you think we might, nightbender.

Merle

I dont quite get the meaning of what you said. DO you mean we understand a lot more than you think we might that you know whats been going on or we understand a lot more than you think we might you somehow know me personally or we understand a lot more than you think we might i am full of baloney

really i have lost the ability to pick up context .

My meaning is the people that are responding to you have had your experiences. You are telling your tale of abuse and health care needs to people that have had much the same experiences. When you think we don't understand, we really do. Your expeiences are not unique to only you. So, we understand a lot more than you think we might, nightbender.

Merle