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10 Jul 2005, 7:23 am

My top priority has changed. Almost a year ago, I announced that I was considering moving out, with internal feelings of bitterness and disqust. Now I've realised that I'm one of these "Talkers" who needs to be around people most of the time. I need to think about my little Chico, as well. As I was looking around my Bedroom in sheer panic, I've realised that I'm in no condition to be living on my own. Not after what happened on Thursday the 7th. I can tolerate the bland Dinners and the Beige walls. I can tolerate the Motherly Instinct that my Mother still posesses. I'm lucky to have a Mom who does care, and who didn't pressure me to get a Job and move out when I was 18. I can tolerate my Dad's love for Drink and Sport. There is no Magic Age for moving out. The fact that I still live at home at 30 doesn't make me any more Disabled, or Special than my Kid Sister, or my Cousins. I'm like a Cockney. I need to be around people as much as possible. That doesn't make me Inferrior, it just makes me different. Besides...who am I going to talk to? Myself? If I was living in a Flat, I would be talking to myself. From this moment on, I'm going to work on being the Family Peacekeeper.



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10 Jul 2005, 7:32 am

Whatever you decide, more power to you.



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10 Jul 2005, 8:06 pm

I need some social interaction myself or I will go crazy. That's why I joined a church. I know how you feel.



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10 Jul 2005, 8:13 pm

It would probably be best to continue with your plans to move out and also make plans to establish more siocial contact. Do you drive? You won't be able to live with your parents forever.



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11 Jul 2005, 2:29 pm

I only need to live with my folks for maybe a year or two, untill my emotions are stable, again.



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11 Jul 2005, 2:35 pm

CockneyRebel wrote:
I only need to live with my folks for maybe a year or two, untill my emotions are stable, again.


Why will your emotions be stable in two years instead of now?


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11 Jul 2005, 5:38 pm

I'm an anglomaniac and I'm still shaken up by the Terrist Attacks that took place in London. It's pretty silly, really. But people don't call me a Cockney Rebel for nothing. This is rediculous. I don't even live in Britian.



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12 Jul 2005, 5:35 pm

I've been doing some thinking, and I've decided that it would be best for me to continue with my moving plans. This is how I made my decision. I took a look back at 9-11, and thought about how long that affected me. It only affected me for two weeks. Being an Anglophile, the Subway Bombings will only affect me for another three weeks. I'm sure that I will be well enough to move out very soon.



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13 Jul 2005, 2:02 pm

I live in London and you seem to be far more upset about all this than I am, or indeed most of the people I know.

Maybe you should try to get some perspective on it.

If you're an anglophile, then just do what we are doing - get on with your life and live it the way you want to.

No offense is intended in what I say and I hope you don't take it as offensive, but I can't help thinking that this has affected you less than it's affected us, so please try to show some respect for us by being strong. I know people who were in one of the trains at the time of the bomb, and one of my boyfriend's work colleagues mum died on the bus.



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13 Jul 2005, 10:57 pm

That was beautiful what you said, that you said "I need friends". I can relate to you.



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14 Jul 2005, 9:49 am

Feather wrote:
I live in London and you seem to be far more upset about all this than I am, or indeed most of the people I know.

Maybe you should try to get some perspective on it.

If you're an anglophile, then just do what we are doing - get on with your life and live it the way you want to.

No offense is intended in what I say and I hope you don't take it as offensive, but I can't help thinking that this has affected you less than it's affected us, so please try to show some respect for us by being strong. I know people who were in one of the trains at the time of the bomb, and one of my boyfriend's work colleagues mum died on the bus.



I think everyone's a bit upset about this, but we'll get through it. I remember that after 9/11, most people I knew were afraid to go on airplanes or to the East Coast, which is ridiculous if you ask me. There's a time when we have to get on with life, even if some things about it might be unpleasant.

It's just like the people on the West Coast and the Mid West of America needed to be strong for those on the East Coast a few years ago...


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14 Jul 2005, 10:36 am

CockneyRebel wrote:
There is no Magic Age for moving out. The fact that I still live at home at 30 doesn't make me any more Disabled, or Special than my Kid Sister, or my Cousins.

It is not abnormal at all. Studies made in some European countries show that 20-30% of people aged 25-35 live with their parents. And no, they aren't "disabled".



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14 Jul 2005, 8:00 pm

magic wrote:
CockneyRebel wrote:
There is no Magic Age for moving out. The fact that I still live at home at 30 doesn't make me any more Disabled, or Special than my Kid Sister, or my Cousins.

It is not abnormal at all. Studies made in some European countries show that 20-30% of people aged 25-35 live with their parents. And no, they aren't "disabled".

In many parts of Italy, people usually live with their parents until they get married- even if they are in their mid 40's they may own their own house, but they often only use it as a party place or a clubhouse while they go home to their parent's house to live. There was a long story about this on 60 Minutes a few years ago.