I don't know if I will ever have a close friend

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I'm turning 39 next month. I thought that by now, I'd surely have at least one close friend. Last year, I got a taste of that, but it didn't turn out well. My friend wanted to start a business together, and we did, but I ended up feeling used and eventually quit. Now she doesn't talk to me, even though i thought we were on good terms. Anyway, I'm also an INFJ, so I've accepted that my social circle will probably always remain very small or even non-existent. I get sad about it sometimes.

Edit to add: Through the years I've tried to make connections through groups, classes, hobbies, apps etc. These days I dont feel like trying anymore, and I guess that kind of worries me, because if i am not actively trying to be social, then how will I make a friend?

You are right, if you aren't trying to be social, then friends will less likely remain if you already have one, or it will be more difficult to make new friends?

I'm not sure what the answer is, but keeping in regular contact with people can be the nourishment of friendships, even if there isn't anything particularly interesting said and what transpires may be uneventful in and of itself, but it is the communication that counts.