After reading this long thread, I have a newfound sense of sympathy for all you who are suffering over this. I feel very grateful to have such a low-maintenance body. It's something men take for granted.
I would add one small detail about what it's like to be a man. Cis men have DNA which powerfully motivates them to look at all the sexually relevant parts of a woman. My eyeballs will almost always instantly gravitate to checking out a woman's waist and bottom in like 1 100th of a second if I don't catch them in time. Some men are "breast men", and others are "ass men", you see (as to what they'll look at first). It's the DNA, ladies, honest. Totally automatic.
The blameworthy, sleazy behavior begins after the first half second or so, if the man doesn't pry his eyes off those compelling body parts.
It isn't so much that a man initially looks, it's that he keeps looking, like a perv would. He's in perv country after that 1st half-second, but not before, I say. He's merely in Cis country - his DNA made him do it - the first half second.
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