What's happened to me? :( Please please please help

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Is it the Aspie thing of over-analyzing everything? (Or maybe it's just me who does this) The how much/when to say it/what to say/ do I talk too much or too little...gawd...even with my friends I've known for years.

Yep! We don't read the signs so well so we examine them with a microscope for any change. Boy, it's hard work!

I've had my (un)fair share of bad luck... lol see what I did there?

Why are we aspies so goddamn inconsistent though? A lot of the time I love my aspergers... but a lot of other times I hate what it does to me.

I don't know why we can't read signs... because I understand subtlety... so I really don't know why I can't read signs I mean - surely it's just another form of subtlety?

Ugh, I know what you mean. Sometimes I catch onto things really well, and other times I amaze myself with my stupidity and thickness. Sometimes I can be really insightful about how I and other people feel (I think, ha!) and other times I made huge mistakes because I can't even correctly discern my own feelings, much less someone else's.

It makes a world of difference when you happen to wind up with someone who communicates like you do and whose presence gives you added clarity rather than confusion.



Hmm... I could be wrong here, but I'm inclined to say that subtlety can be deduced by logic (we love wordplay, after all), whereas signs require experience to interpret. Does that make sense?

For example, you might pick up on a veiled hint that a girl fancies you, if she said it in a subtle way, right?

But you might not know what it means when a girl compliments you a lot when you do talk, but often forgets to write you back.

lol I still don't even know why they compliment me. I'm not putting myself down I guess I'm just not used to people respecting me like that... I'm used to feeling like an outcasted renegade, scratching for his place in the world... lol not very positive. lol

Well I won't say complacently that this compliment stuff is happening, 'cause it ain't... then again, the simple fact that her internet is down (it's hard for me to say that... trusting what a girl I'm after says... I am afterall a 'mad, paranoid, unusual brain wave guy' = aspie )

I choose to believe her internet is down - pretty foolish to think otherwise, based on the fact that she wasn't online on Sunday or something all day... and like most people she's one of those people who goes online daily.

Plus I have helped her out of feeling low a few times... if she's a decent person she will be friendly with me.

lol it really surprises me though when people value me highly... I value myself highly but surprises me when others do too...

lol dunno what the case is atm though.

hmm... situation just the same really lol.

Not going to talk to her until tomorrow or Saturday... and I haven't talked to her since Monday and that was merely a couple of texts.

I feel sometimes I have to enforce a point if I felt I sent like 1 or 2 too many messages or whatnot... that should clear the situation a bit, and make one think 'well ok I guess I was wrong he ain't the needy type' if that is what impression I gave... not sure it was but sometimes you need to make sure.