Is it actually better to purposely NOT invest a lot of...

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Resources and time into dating?

I think so and here's why:

If you invest a lot of resources during the dating stage it will become harder & more challenging to break away from the marriage or relationship!! !

Dating creates an attachment to your partner and marriage is just the continuation of that process

I know I like to rant about SpongeBob SquarePants a lot but the show actually provides some insight into this problem

Nickelodeon created an attachment to SpongeBob during the series' conception

(the "dating phase" if you will)

"How was this possible" you might ask?

The answer is...by investing a LOT of resources into the show starting in the show's infancy (a.k.a the dating phase)

Now Nick has moved into the "marriage phase" with SBSP and shows no signs of wanting a "divorce"! !!

They have been "married" to the show for over 20 years!

But this is the root of the entire problem

Treating this cartoon like a life partner and operating it like a marriage is what ultimately screwed everything up

What has happened to SpongeBob SquarePants is the fate for MANY long-lasting marriages & relationships unless you purposely don't invest a lot of time and resources into the partnership so you can avoid corruption from the sunk-cost fallacy! !!

Do you guys agree with my analysis?

Thanks in advance!

I agree with you for a different reason. I think if someone puts in too much energy early on in the dating phase, they may set the bar too high as far as social engagement and consequently burnout as a result.

Also, coming on too strong is a real turn off for many people, especially women.