Anxious about colleagues conflict.

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I'm at this job since june. This is my first full time job ever. Colleagues having conflict and complaining about each other. I feel I said a few things I shouldn't have, trying to avoid conflict with one person. I've been stressed for about a month, but yesterday and today has been the worst. I try to think this isn't my problem, but I'm now scared to go to work.

Stay neutral and don't side with either. Since this is your first full time job, take this as one of those life lessons, don't involved too much with co-workers. It leads to one thing, big trouble.

It's hard not to get emotionally involved with coworkers though. Well, for most autistics maybe it isn't hard, but for some of us it can be if we have ADHD and can be hyper-social. Also I don't really have many friends outside of work and I spend a lot of time at work so I see the people there a lot and have formed connections with them without thinking about it. It's hard to just keep everyone at arm's length and sit on my hands, because that life would feel lonely. Unless you're the sort of autistic person to not mind this.

Yes try to stay neutral, and if any of them have toxic attitudes try to stay away as much as possible. If it's okay to do so, use noise cancelling headphones if their conversations start to trigger you. I had a propensity to for stuff people said to stick in my mind and build up until the next time they said something it suddenly triggered an outburst from me. Noise cancelling headphones really helped me deal with that by reducing the amount of ignorant nonsense I had to listen to.

My husband has Asperger's. He is a master at social situations, especially at work. Better than I ever was (I'm NT).

When he hears some kind of complaint from a co-worker his default answer is, "Wow. That's crazy."

Thank you everyone for your comments. I started doing some of these, like taking small breaks to draw or read. The situation has now resolved, but I learn and remind myself to not get emotionally involved with work, as long as I focus on getting my tasks done.