Dating: Tips, Experience, Advice

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^Reminds me that I knew an Aspie online over 20 years ago who met his wife by hooking up with a woman after his cousin's wedding.

^there are different ways and methods for people to reach goals

Like the way to reach the marriage goal for some people would be from an online dating app and for others like me, from meeting someone organically (without apps)! !!

Some people do reach the goal from not starting as friends first or from having a one-night stand while in a drunken state

It all is dependant on what the person does but all people who are currently dating are working towards the same thing...


EDIT: A possible way of achieving my animation and voice acting goal would be to do commercial voice-overs at a local radio station in order to start accumulating experience then drive myself down to Burbank and go to auditions/callbacks!! !

Last edited by Mikurotoro92 on 24 Sep 2025, 11:56 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Me, no.
I literally had just walked in the door of a packed pub and saw a group of 3 girls fighting their way towards another exit past the bar.

I threaded my way to intercept the blonde in front (I was a 2 metre beanpole then....I'm pretty quick but couldn't reach the bar before the first two passed.) I grinned and offered to buy the third a drink. We sat underneath a pool table (she was hiding from the guy she'd arrived with) and had 1 drink (she had also had a beer with him) but I rather doubt alcohol functioned as anything other than an anxiolytic/social lubricant. We were both inhabiting binge drinking peer groups at the time, so we hadn't even started getting plastered.
After bolting that drink we snuck outside and caught up with her friends who were waiting in front of a café a few doors down, she made her apologies and we jumped on a tram to my place.
(An hour later she was with me in a 711 wearing only my dressing gown... How could I not fall in love with this one?)

I'm glad I didn't catch the blonde in front. My partner's bestie has a habit of getting a skinful and abusing her men, and a few months after my infiltration she split my forehead open with an unopened beer can. The girl in the middle would have been a disaster for me too.

If I wasn't as extroverted as I am (was) I'd offer this advice.
If you're shy, then weaponise it.
When someone catches your eye, smile (have you practiced your smile in a mirror?), Blush (seriously? when I passed puberty that was automatic and it took a long time to learn not to. If it ain't automatic you can fake it by straining, but that's slower.), Look away quickly.
There... Silent flirt accomplished!
When you eventually look back point your face down and look through your eyelashes.
I don't see using a technique like this as any more manipulative than rehearsing what you plan to say and I know a lot of us do that.
Approach only if you have a reason for closing the gap and if possible, let them make the next move.

Here's a line I came up with the other day I could probably adapt in real time.
"It seems to me that your eyes are either saying 'Oh Sh!t!' or 'Holy Sh!t!'. I'm going to gamble on the latter, then confess there's a reason why I can't tell the difference"

If you don't know a person at all and are just meeting them, what do you talk to them about?

^superficial and basic stuff like the weather

You have to find SOME way to initiate conversation!! !

Yeah, that's where I fail. I just can't do that.

If the other person is interested in you it most likely to doesn't matter what you choose to talk about. Pick anything.l

They wouldn't know anything about me either at this point so no reason to think they'd be interested. When I talk, the purpose of the "talk" is the subject being discussed. If there's no specific subject of interest to both parties, there's no point in talking. Just walking up to some random stranger and saying, "Hey, would you like to discuss topic A, B or C?" just doesn't work.

Let them initiate conversation first @Bataar

This takes the pressure off of you!! !