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06 Sep 2025, 12:18 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
How about your start initiating chatting with guys with humble professions, instead of going for "doctors", "officiers" or highest-ranking official in UN or US army who are having some urgent situation and in need of cash immediately - just for a change?

After encountering so many scams claiming having these high "fancy" professions (it's a VERY striking pattern in your threads - so I believe you are aiming/falling for those), I don't think you work as any of those - It's time for you to aim a tad bit "lower", Kitty.

There's nothing wrong in having a boyfriend who's a plumber or an accountant or even a librarian for instance - and it's ok if he doesn't look like Chris Evan either.


The guy talked to me first.



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08 Sep 2025, 5:49 pm

Do you use the same avatar in your dating apps as you do here?

Try using something more generic.



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10 Sep 2025, 1:58 am

ChicagoLiz wrote:
Do you use the same avatar in your dating apps as you do here?

Try using something more generic.


No I use my real pic.



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10 Sep 2025, 2:18 am

The same guy keep emailing me, wanting me to give him money to get paid, he put a pic of the check.



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10 Sep 2025, 10:34 am

^That sounds VERY much like either a scam, or that person is just taking advantage of you. :?


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10 Sep 2025, 1:06 pm

You do seem quite vulnerable. Remember before when we were trying to tell you that a guy you were talking to online sounded dodgy and you got upset and wouldn't believe us, then found out that we were right? Well, maybe you should think about it more this time.

I'm sorry if that comes across as criticism. But we only want to look out for you, as you're a valuable member of our community.


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11 Sep 2025, 3:25 am

Tamaya wrote:
You do seem quite vulnerable. Remember before when we were trying to tell you that a guy you were talking to online sounded dodgy and you got upset and wouldn't believe us, then found out that we were right? Well, maybe you should think about it more this time.

I'm sorry if that comes across as criticism. But we only want to look out for you, as you're a valuable member of our community.



I moved on, I'm talking to another guy, I will be very careful.



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11 Sep 2025, 5:59 am

Kitty4670 wrote:
Tamaya wrote:
You do seem quite vulnerable. Remember before when we were trying to tell you that a guy you were talking to online sounded dodgy and you got upset and wouldn't believe us, then found out that we were right? Well, maybe you should think about it more this time.

I'm sorry if that comes across as criticism. But we only want to look out for you, as you're a valuable member of our community.



I moved on, I'm talking to another guy, I will be very careful.


Okay.


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12 Sep 2025, 10:32 am

Kitty4670 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
How about your start initiating chatting with guys with humble professions, instead of going for "doctors", "officiers" or highest-ranking official in UN or US army who are having some urgent situation and in need of cash immediately - just for a change?

After encountering so many scams claiming having these high "fancy" professions (it's a VERY striking pattern in your threads - so I believe you are aiming/falling for those), I don't think you work as any of those - It's time for you to aim a tad bit "lower", Kitty.

There's nothing wrong in having a boyfriend who's a plumber or an accountant or even a librarian for instance - and it's ok if he doesn't look like Chris Evan either.


The guy talked to me first.


You choose who you reply to; this is the gender dynamic in ALL dating apps; unless it's forced otherwise (ie. Bumble)



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14 Sep 2025, 3:15 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
How about your start initiating chatting with guys with humble professions, instead of going for "doctors", "officiers" or highest-ranking official in UN or US army who are having some urgent situation and in need of cash immediately - just for a change?

After encountering so many scams claiming having these high "fancy" professions (it's a VERY striking pattern in your threads - so I believe you are aiming/falling for those), I don't think you work as any of those - It's time for you to aim a tad bit "lower", Kitty.

There's nothing wrong in having a boyfriend who's a plumber or an accountant or even a librarian for instance - and it's ok if he doesn't look like Chris Evan either.


The guy talked to me first.


You choose who you reply to; this is the gender dynamic in ALL dating apps; unless it's forced otherwise (ie. Bumble)


I didn;t know he was a doctor. I did talked to a doctor years ago too, we video chat.



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14 Sep 2025, 3:20 am

He still emailing me, what if he is real, he keep saying he real, real or not real, I moved on.



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14 Sep 2025, 4:21 pm

^online dating apps can be VERY DANGEROUS even for neuro-typicals!! !

You have to be lucky to have success from them!



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16 Sep 2025, 5:19 am

Kitty4670 wrote:
He still emailing me, what if he is real, he keep saying he real, real or not real, I moved on.


Scammers are always persisting because they use bots; a normal human would give up since 2nd unreplied message.



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29 Sep 2025, 10:43 am

I've read articles about people going to Thailand, thinking that they'd been offered a lucrative job. Then, they are kidnapped, brought into prison conditions in Burma, and forced to work all day trying to con people across the world to send money to their captors.


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