27 May 2025, 6:51 pm
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17 Jun 2025, 10:14 am
Vitowski wrote:
King Kat 1 wrote:
I'm 45 and I am definitely getting worse, Years of masking, stress, bullying, idiot co workers, bosses, and pressure from family, I need to retire from the world or in part.
100%
When I was young, I could deal with everything way better.
Now I get overstimulated so bad, that I struggle to do even groceries.
The older I get, the less I am capable to suppress the symptoms.
Fortunately (for me at least) I find that the societal margins for displaying "symptoms", when we age, gets larger.
I stim in plain sight and no-one confronts me anymore, they all seem to 'accept it', and I'm not talking about colleagues that have known me for 30years. Just people in the street, I remember in my mid 20's that people would walk up to me and feel it to be their mission in life to set me straight.
17 Jun 2025, 12:40 pm
21 Sep 2025, 5:06 pm
kadanuumuu wrote:
@wandermom
... humans (neurotypical or other) reach peak pattern recognition efficiency later in life. We've seen and experienced more of the results of social interactions and also see more clearly the futility at the end of most... so for pragmatical minds such as ours (ASD). We often focus "10 miles down the road" and as we get more 'experienced' to me it is no surprise that burnout, faltering motivation and or discipline take hold in my already prone mind...
but hey, that's just my 2 cents
... humans (neurotypical or other) reach peak pattern recognition efficiency later in life. We've seen and experienced more of the results of social interactions and also see more clearly the futility at the end of most... so for pragmatical minds such as ours (ASD). We often focus "10 miles down the road" and as we get more 'experienced' to me it is no surprise that burnout, faltering motivation and or discipline take hold in my already prone mind...
but hey, that's just my 2 cents
This is good stuff right here. My analytical brain takes forever to process social information so I'm too slow to hold my own in a group conversation, but I've spent over 5 decades learning how human interaction works. I am completely burnt out by the repetitive and sometimes toxic algorithms of social interaction. Mostly because neurotypicals think that social interaction should be competitive, not supportive. And this fact doesn't change just because I believe it should be otherwise. When I was a child, I thought kindness was an adult concept. But most adults consider kindness to be a childish concept. Which is really weird because neither children or adults are kind, in general, because Society does not encourage either to be so.
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01 Oct 2025, 10:22 pm
catpiecakebutter wrote:
Unless something changes, my self esteem is going to get worse as I get older (I'm in my 40's). I disagree and not like it when someone calls me young because I'm middle aged. I never graduated from high school, I don't have tons of friends that I see in person and I don't have a job. And the is other reason why I don't like myself. How do any of you deal with self esteem getting worse?
I did the Forrest Gump thing. I started running. I have connective tissue issues so it took me years to correct my form. Shoulder blades together, palms up, chin down. I even found a free website where I could change the speed of my workout songs. Forcing my feet to land on the beat helped me even up my steps. Wait, did I say running? I meant jogging very very slowly. Like little old ladies speed walking usually pass me. But that's okay because your body releases endorphins even when you're not going that fast. And when you go slowly, you can look around. It's just so nice to get away from people. And it gives your brain time to sift through your thoughts, like moving meditation. Sometimes I pretend I'm running away. Okay, every time, I pretend I'm running away.
