Do you think trauma increases fear of failure?

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Would welcome your thoughts.

I think it can, perhaps especially if some of the trauma was related to being harshly disciplined for mistakes, autistic behavior, or even for developmentally appropriate kid behavior. It can make you more likely to be afraid of making mistakes as an adult. Of course, trauma can negatively impact a person’s self-concept, too.

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I think my lack of self-awareness in childhood might have contributed to my social anxiety I get in public places now. Well, I did have self-awareness as a child most of the time but I mean I would shout out embarrassing things, like things that are meant to be kept private, at an age where children should have learnt what to keep quiet. I knew what I was doing but just didn't care really, or I just thought that if other people didn't know you then they don't judge you. So I had to learn the hard way, through lots of criticism, that strangers do judge you, sometimes even more than the people who know and like you. So I've sort of developed that NT mindset of caring what strangers think, because I grew up in a rather conservative area where people were more paranoid about what the neighbours thought than about your own wellbeing. So during my mid-teens all the criticising had swung my pendulum of perspective to the other side, and I entered adulthood feeling obsessively self-conscious and feeling like everyone knows what I'm thinking and are staring, laughing, judging me.
Embarrassment is an emotional response that I feel very intensely and I can't always deal with it. My face goes red and it can trigger frustration and self-loathing.

I remember seeing a meme on Facebook that went a bit like this:

Them: Don't shout that out, people will hear!
You're making an idiot of yourself!
They're laughing at you!
Don't be yourself in public!
Don't wear that, it looks stupid.
Then..
How come you worry so much about what strangers think of you?

Yes indeed , am still alittle self concious about my appearance in public, , So now I dress to suit my mood or health too.
Then ,after so much trauma, And physical and emotional suffering . It gets to be , I just do mot care as much as I used too. After a certain degree of losses and experiences. Its like , What more can they do to me .. ? Kill me.? Was given up for dead, or at best mentally disabled ( vegatable,they told my mom , back then)and wheel chair bound for life. but after a year gradusted to a forearm walker. And slowly proved the docs wrong. And out did most of my peers inspite of setbacks. And had some degree of determination. So can say , used to fear failure , but after time has passed. Just not sure ,I care anymore . .