As an autistic lesbian I feel like I get ignored a lot by people when it comes to dating. I have gone to numerous queer womens speed dating and mingles to try and find a partner and get completely ignored every single time. I am socially awkward due to my autism and I am fat and a person of color but that should not mean I get ignored. It could be a thing in my region but I have noticed that only thin white queer women are able to get dates easily with almost no effort. I see it with my friends who are conventionally attractive, thin and white. Girls just go up to them and I just get ignored. People are extremely superficial in the lesbian community at least where I am. It sucks being looked over when I am just trying to flirt and date like everyone else. I have given up at this point. Last date I went on was with a gorgeous girl I was so so into and she ghosted me. I was imagining how cute of a couple we'd be. She got uncomfortable at the end when I said do you want to hang out again maybe see a play and said she was only looking for friends since she just got out of a serious relationship and I was so bummed. I reached out to her after we met up to hang out as friends and she never responded. I would've at least loved to have stayed friends. I know she probably got uncomfortable because I was being awkward and I dodged a bullet because she was flaky and bad at texting and I want to date someone who is a good at texting and following up. We had met at speed dating and she date and friend matched me so she was romantically interested initially. There appeared to be sparks and arm touching but alas no luck and have not been on a date since 2 years later. I have only had some casual flings and two short term relationships that were not serious and ended because the other girl was not ready to date and we were not compatible. I am convinced I will probably never meet my person and its a bummer.
11 Nov 2025, 2:01 pm
