Women who are childless or childfree

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Childless but not by choice. I just haven't found the right partner to have a child with, and I don't know if I ever will..

I feel so much more than most people around me and for that reason I can't trust anyone to raise a tiny human with.

I knew as young as 4 (yes 4) that I never wanted children when I grew up. I had an aunt who was pregnant with her first and CONSTANTALY complaining about how painful it was. "The baby is kicking me in my spine!" "The baby is kicking my bladder!" "If this is what pregnancy is like every time, this is our first and our last biological child, Husband!" Then my sister-in-law got pregnant and she said the EXACT same things...despite having two other kids.

I never wanted to play with baby dolls or enact the whole "mommy" thing with a humanoid doll. A stuffed animal yes, but not a humanoid doll. I was never allowed to have dolls or toys that had a urinating or defecating feature and with the exception of these G1 My Little Pony babies that could be "fed" with a bottle and would "wet" their diapers that changed color when wet and this 101 Dalmatians tie in plush dog that "wet" its newspaper), I never wanted them either. Eww! And you're telling me in the future when I grow up, I can give birth to a living human that does this? No thanks.

I had to have a hysterectomy in 2011 because my mensural cycle would NOT stop on it's own and I didn't want to try birth control or burning a layer of my uterus. IUD's did not exist yet, or I simply was never told about them. I would have turned it down anyway. I'm also ace.

I was 23 at the time and everyone told me I would come to regret my hysterectomy when I got older. I never did. I'm almost 40 now and have never changed my mind about NOT having children. I just know I would NOT be a good mother to them. I doubt I would be able to bond with them. I have STRONG special interests I peruse EVERY waking hour of my life and I get VERY depressed if I cannot peruse them. Parenting is not a special interest. I just KNEW from a VERY young age, I'm not emotionally capable of raising another human being. Children deserve to be raised by someone that has the ability to love them. I doubt I could love a human child even if it was mine.

I want a baby but I don't want to go through all that pregnancy and childbirth but I don't want to adopt either, I want my child to be biologically mine, do you see my dilemma?
Yes, it basically means you want to be a father.

This I relate to so well. Fathers get to enjoy a baby without having to go through an ounce of pain or threat to their health.

^Exactly! !!

But if I do end up becoming a mom it will sadly NOT be with David!! !

I want nothing more than to be a mother, I don't care about career or financial success or any if that. I just want to leave some proof of my existence behind and also do mum things like make packed lunches for my spouse and kids every morning. I'm already early 30s and am still childless because of my sh***y love life. Too many casual flings and no one my age who I get on with enough to date even wants kids. It really depresses me that time is running out and it might not even happen at this rate. When I was little I was so excited to become an adult and have kids of my own.