My mummy said that a lot of the issues that we have, between me and her, is change. She says something, then she says something else and I get upset because I do not like the change. It happened twice today. She said I can sleep with my fan on a couple of weeks ago and today she said that most of the time I should not use it and when I feel like I really need to she will switch it off when she puts my sister in her bed. That upset me because she changed what she said. And she told my brother and I to leave three slices of pizza for our cousin and then when I went to get my fifth and last slice, so that there'd be three left, she said she wanted our cousin to have four slices. I told her I think she should have told me that earlier, because when I ate my fourth slice, I ate it with the expectation that I would have another one. If she said I have to leave four for my cousin and I can only eat four, I would be okay. I would have eaten my fourth slice with the expectation that there would be no more slices for me. But I felt like she played with my emotions because there I was, anticipating my last slice when she told me that I had already eaten my last slice. When I told her this, she said fine, I can have it. But she was looking at me in a strange way.
And then as I was about to eat it she said that a lot of the time I have meltdowns because of change, and I need to learn that the world is unpredictable—something like that.
That made me feel like she was insulting my autism (because as you probably know, we like things that are predictable). I am self-diagnosed autistic because she doesn't have the money yet for an official diagnosis, but I still felt hurt. Do you have any advice or opinions?
22 Feb 2026, 11:21 am
