One aspect of society I wish was different.

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What are some of these many avenues of life that have been shut off to you, besides romantic relationships?


What fields have you wished to engage in?


Which of "those fields" have you tried to engage in? Did you ever have a genuine interest in any of them in the past? If so, which one(s)?


Unfortunately, there's an intrinsic problem here: Love and romance don't form in a vacuum. There needs to be some kind of on-ramp, some kind of context in which a romantic relationship can develop. If you truly have no interests in life other than love and romance, then what are you going to do, or talk about, on your first date with someone?

[EDIT: Looks like I might have misunderstood you here. See my next post.]

Even a highly unusual hobby, disapproved of by the vast majority of people, would be far better than no hobby at all, if you can find potential romantic partners who share that hobby.

My own romantic relationships (including my current and longest-lasting one) have all formed in the context of shared interests, usually quite unusual ones. My social life has always revolved around seeking out fellow oddballs. So I know, from experience, that that can be a successful strategy for finding both friends and romantic partners.

If, in your life, there is any possibility of a renewed, hopefully more successful attempt at any of the "avenues of life I used to think I would be able to participate in," then that would make a romantic relationship much more of a possibility too.

Another intrinsic problem: Successful romantic relationships are an advanced form of friendship. If you have no interest in friendship, then pursuing a romantic relationship is like trying to learn calculus without first learning algebra.

Last edited by Mona Pereth on 25 Feb 2026, 12:12 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Hmmm, I now see another, different post of yours that contains what might be a ray of hope:

What kinds of fun? What kinds of activities do you like to do, and/or what kinds of conversations do you like to have, that are fun for you and the person you are with?

And, when you say you "work hard at" having fun, what kind of "work" are you talking about? (I'm wondering if you have some sort of hobby that you don't think of as a "hobby," for whatever reason.)


Hmmm, I thought most people (both women and men) want a romantic partner who is both someone they can have fun with and someone they can build a life with.

In any case, the ability to have mutual fun with someone is certainly helpful.


Yes, it's possible to find people online. Just be careful you don't fall afoul of the rules of whatever online venue you're in. (Here on Wrong Planet, for example, see Inappropriate PMs and Grooming on WrongPlanet.)

The way I look at it the only reason I use social media is in order to look for a girlfriend. If a website kicks me off for breaking the rules by doing that then they served no purpose to me anyways.

As far as ways I like to have fun I lead a very active sex life, I like using weed, I adore music. It would be great to find someone who enjoyed doing all these things with me, but they are not absolutely necessary.

As to how I have worked hard to have this much fun. I am well educated, well read, funny, great sense of humor, I am a rational and clear thinker. I like to have fun, I am not afraid to put in the work to have as much fun in life as possible

I found online dating extremely hard. I just couldn't form romantic connections with people. I met my husband on a bus.

I like meeting people online first

Some websites, such as Wrong Planet, don't have a rule against looking for a girlfriend per se, but do have rules that impact how you go about it. (Again, see the Wrong Planet page I linked in my previous post. Hopefully WP's rules are not a problem for you.)


To increase your chances of finding someone here, I would suggest that you edit your profile to give your posts a signature line. Perhaps a reference to the kinds of music you like, or perhaps something humorous.

SNAP! ....well...except for rationality.

If I wasn't on the other side of the planet I'd volunteer as wingman.

Thank you both so much. That is wonderfully kind of you

If love and romance is your specialty, you should keep perusing it, no matter what the clowns of society tell you.