it seems Auties people have issues with Authority

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from Qu ora :
Because lots of so-called authoritative figureheads are constantly lying to you, constantly fabricating, constantly weaving a web, constantly deceiving you, constantly manipulating you, constantly trying to crack your very psyche so they can dominate you, constantly trying to make you feel subdued or shunned, constantly trying to make you feel as though your questions aren't even worth asking .
( personal Note : experienced this first hand repeatedly in my Lifetime)
Or Share your experiences of this type below please .
My last thread here possibly ?

I have had good leaders, usually closer to me (+1 or 2) that I can follow because they know what they are doing and I trust them (I have trusted those too much in the past).

I chafe under structure/discipline. Never liked rules, as in written rules; health and safety and petty rules that don't really need to exist but just do because the people who make them just like power. It's why I couldn't get on with my previous supervisor, as he loved making up rules and handing disciplinaries out like candy, and I couldn't handle it. It caused me to have several meltdowns and high anxiety.

It's why I found transition from preschool to school very hard and daunting. At preschool there were less rules, you just had to be kind to one another, not deliberately break things, etc - which I knew anyway. But at school the rules were more structured, because it was a classroom, not a day care.

It's why I can't be on internet forums or social media places that have too many confusing, contradictory rules. Another autism site I was on I just couldn't get on with the rules at all and kept finding myself arguing with the moderators there. I find rules less restrictive on WP and easier to understand and follow.

I tried looking up that Opposional Defiant Disorder or whatever it's called, because I wondered if I had that, but it said it's more for very disruptive and aggressive children, or adults who are always in trouble with the law. I don't really fit into either of those boxes, so I just put mine down to ADHD and having a creative mind or a sort of personality that doesn't suit a rigid or structured environment.

I chose ignore because I tend to reject people attempting to exercise authority.
This is where tangential thinking comes into play. If I'm told to do A, I will agree, but do something else.
The deviation is inversely proportional to common sense. If I'm given (what I see as) a stupid order, it will be immediately obvious that I'm not following it. If the order makes sense i will mostly comply, but a request will be acted on without me bridling.

I want to print a T shirt saying "ANYTHING YOU ASK, NOTHING YOU TELL ME."

definitely there is good authority and bad authority. we're all living under the bad kind now. let us all apply our massive prayer power en masse to appeal to the universe/God to fix this definitively.

Am most likely to to want to see them as being forthright enough to use common sense as a authority figure . If no other reason than to get along, generally and if anything remotely feels off . Or if pressured . Most likely would defer to CarbonHalo s. above written method of dealing with them. And depending on the situation. Have been know to just get up and walk away . As in previous appt. with head of Infectious disease with the VA health services in my State .
Whom I merely asked what guidelines he was using to treat Lyme. And when he replied about his using a set of guidelines That had been deemed outdated by several organizations I was familiar with . .By at least 3 years .
So just got up and left and as we left. And the man representing hisself as a knowledgeable medical practicioner , had called their security for the facility . That tracked us in the building to the patients advocate office there. And as we were leaving there, "due to the patient advocates absence" We were accosted by the 2 security officers , before getting out of the Patients Advocates door .
As they blocked the exit from that room . I simply asked them, ,if I could help them ? And they replied ,they wanted to make sure I was Okay . And we gracefully left the facility . Had similiar experiences of this nature with Sheriffs and Court Prosecuetors. No walking away from those, but asserting my rights by law . And most often try very hard to avoid or expecting to deal with monsters.