Our routines and rules we follow

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I must admit to you that ever since I was a young child, I was - and still am - obsessed with all sorts of rules and routines imposed on me. For example, when I was a child of 4-6 and colored coloring books, I had to (!) use the color that was supposed to be used, according to the instruction. I remember that for a while I didn't have a pink crayon (I got a set containing one when I was maybe 6), and it felt very wrong to me to color something using the red crayon instead. No - it had to (!) be the pink color. Another example was doing things only from a strictly defined date onward. My mother and grandmother always told me that hazelnuts were to be eaten only from the Feast of the Assumption (August 15), and that's exactly how it had to be to me. As a child, I would never even have considered eating a hazelnut before that date.

And you? What about you?

Such self-imposed rules can be helpful to reduce anxiety. However, they can grow to be a sort of prison.

I consider Aspergers to be a neurological variant that is more complex, faster, or more sensitive such that one is almost buried in an avalanche of sensory and cognitive information. Attempting to devise ways to reduce this avalanche can result in rules. However, it can be helpful to develop additional skills such that one does not build a prison of rules.

I do remember doing this quite a bit, especially as a kid, making up rules or routines when it was unclear what I was supposed to do. Or I'd follow the laid out rules exactly. Especially in school. Though I was open to changing the rule when I learned more information.

I have some potential examples but when I wrote them out, I don't know how strong they are so I might try to think more on this topic and if I think of some good examples later I'll make another post.

I'm not sure with me. I find following routines and rituals difficult, due to ADHD. I always have to check dates on refrigeratorated items before consuming, but that's more down to food paranoia (I have severe phobia of getting sick).

My ADD has always been a much larger influence on my life than my late recognized autism. I was a feral child and asked for forgiveness rather than permission for the most part. I appreciate rules implied by immediate logic rather than preset. I don't think I'd do anything if I waited to understand rules.