Forcing myself to have kids but I can't stand tantrums

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I seem to feel as though sometimes having kids is something that people do even regardless of really wanting to or not. A strong part of me doesn't but there is a part of me that is telling me to have them anyway.

I have a six year old nephew who has ADHD and autism and I seem to find myself getting annoyed whenever he these meltdowns or tantrums where sometimes he has to be restrained and we can't work out why it happens. I don't know if it's overstimulation or something.

Even though he is six, I still struggle to deal with having nephew, he can be annoying sometimes and sometimes I feel bad because I seem to lack interest in wanting to interact with him. I don't know that because I don't have kids I don't understand the situation until I do. I am also well aware that their is a slight chance my kids will be autistic or have ADHD like my nephew even though there is no guarantee.

If you're not equipped to raise kids, don't put yourself in that position.

Yeah, not everyone needs to have kids. The nice thing about nieces and nephews is spending time with them but then getting to go home after.

I like the idea of having kids some days, but then other days I feel like it would be too hard. I don't spend time with kids that much but more recently I have spent time with my 2 year old nephew and wow I am exhausted after. But he's fun and I'm happy to spend some time with him when I get the chance to.

Tantrums are one of the main reasons i'm borderline anti-natalist.

Its obvious children are unhappy due to the world's expectations when they have tantrums, So i refuse to bring them into this world.

Yes its a sacrifice on my part (because i actually want an offspring.) but at the same time i have to remind myself of the greater good and think of what i would've wanted as a child. I never wanted to come into this world because of the many facets of pain i'd later experience firsthand.