Dating supposed to be easier today why are there more single

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I mean my goal in life is to get into a romantic relationship. The same way another person's goal in life might be to be a fire fighter, or a surgeon. Once I get into a relationship then I can start living the life I want to live- which is a life shared with someone

Okay, but women also want a partner they can relate to, hon. Just having a special interest in romance isn't going to cut it. You can be multi-faceted.

A lot of women actually view a lack of interest or hobbies as a red flag, anyhow. It's not doing you any favors.

I don't have hobbies or interests. But I am well read, well educated, erudite and able to talk about a wide variety of subjects and topics. Whatever they want to talk about I am game. If they want me to read certain books or watch certain movies I will be more than happy to.

As for myself my only interest and goal in life is a romantic relationship. I have read all the books, watched all the movies, studied everything I wanted, gotten the degrees I wanted. And now I want to start living the life I have always wanted to live. Which is a shared life built around love and human empathy

Very few people find desperation attractive and those who do are likely approaching from a predatory angle rather than a romantic angle.[/quote]


I am autistic, and severely limited socially due to extreme stress and anxiety throughout my life. I hope no one would see these immense struggles as "desperate."

It's moreso the monotropic fixation on wanting to date despite not having any hobbies or other interests that might help lay the groundwork for meeting and interacting with others.

It comes off as though it's your entire personality and that's likely to repel others, which makes it unlikely to lead to the outcome you desire. You might earn sympathy from some people but no one wants to date someone because they feel sorry for them.

I share your struggles, I'm also autistic and limited socially but I know what has worked for finding for partners and what will only ever give off more red flags than a Soviet parade.