Dating supposed to be easier today why are there more single

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Okay, but women also want a partner they can relate to, hon. Just having a special interest in romance isn't going to cut it. You can be multi-faceted.

A lot of women actually view a lack of interest or hobbies as a red flag, anyhow. It's not doing you any favors.

I don't have hobbies or interests. But I am well read, well educated, erudite and able to talk about a wide variety of subjects and topics. Whatever they want to talk about I am game. If they want me to read certain books or watch certain movies I will be more than happy to.

As for myself my only interest and goal in life is a romantic relationship. I have read all the books, watched all the movies, studied everything I wanted, gotten the degrees I wanted. And now I want to start living the life I have always wanted to live. Which is a shared life built around love and human empathy

I am autistic, and severely limited socially due to extreme stress and anxiety throughout my life. I hope no one would see these immense struggles as "desperate."

It's moreso the monotropic fixation on wanting to date despite not having any hobbies or other interests that might help lay the groundwork for meeting and interacting with others.

It comes off as though it's your entire personality and that's likely to repel others, which makes it unlikely to lead to the outcome you desire. You might earn sympathy from some people but no one wants to date someone because they feel sorry for them.

I share your struggles, I'm also autistic and limited socially but I know what has worked for finding for partners and what will only ever give off more red flags than a Soviet parade.

Ok, well I am a person with severe disabilities and limitations who is looking for a girlfriend on an autism message board. And you are a person who likes telling a person who struggles a great deal in life that he is not worthy of dating. And since you don't know the first thing about me I know that your opinion is useless.

I know I am ready to be a great boyfriend for the right person today so for all the other women out there I would love to be in a relationship and chat anytime

I haven't told you that you're unworthy of dating, I've told you that your approach hasn't worked and is doomed to continue to not working.

Those two things are not the same.
Further, if I believed you were unworthy of dating I wouldn't try to tell you what you're doing wrong.

But, I think your response to constructive feedback might be another red flag and an indication of a lack emotional maturity.

Best of luck, but don't be surprised if a failing strategy continues to fail.