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13 Jan 2026, 3:34 am

Thank you Jakki
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15 Jan 2026, 12:23 pm

If environmental interaction is what regulates the sense of self and being, what does it say for people with executive dysfunction? What does it say for people with mental illness and disabling trauma? What does it imply for cases that deals with double empathy?

What does it imply for people with unreliable bodies and brains?
What does this imply for anyone who has "less agency"?


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15 Jan 2026, 2:54 pm

babybird wrote:
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Most Welcome Babybird and acknowledgement is always appreciated , and just incase "apologies" if ,possibly have inadvertantly offended any persons,at other times . Sometimes ,it can be a crapshoot in responding to people, often cause ,its nigh impossible to be in anothers persons shoes at the same time . 99.9% of the time , hoping to help.


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15 Jan 2026, 3:13 pm

Edna3362 wrote:
If environmental interaction is what regulates the sense of self and being, what does it say for people with executive dysfunction? What does it say for people with mental illness and disabling trauma? What does it imply for cases that deals with double empathy?

What does it imply for people with unreliable bodies and brains?
What does this imply for anyone who has "less agency"?


These are serious considerations : And often may extremely limit the ability to respond properly to peeps having those circumstances . And even being able to recieve help . And must admit to dealing with some of those things mentioned above .
Brings to mind a possible Quote ,from whom,i do not know?and likely of no help, but to maybe help depict the situation in a short form concerning the exigencies of life ? as follows : " Lost in the fog of War" perhaps where things,all just boil down to survival? :ninja:
Thanks gor sharing those concepts/considerations Edna.


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16 Jan 2026, 2:13 am

Who or whatever other half or younger self residing my in right brain, probably has anxiety.

Does that make sense?


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16 Jan 2026, 5:27 am

I really really wish the United States would have a better mental health system. I saw that Sweden has a great mental health system and it made me wish I lived there. At the rate things are going I fear what the US system will look like in 5 years. I know the grass is not always greener on the other side however. I just wish things could be better.



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16 Jan 2026, 5:33 am

Regarding Ednas Last post ...:D ... yeah... think may occur in older Aspie brains possible , even younger brain possibly? .Maybe off base here .
And this only one opinion.: Like to think , that younger part of the side of the brain. Is what keeps us going .
Think it , just as it is for me, has my younger selfs anxiety . And just maybe that younger side could be sort of a preservative for the alert ND person / Aspie. Not sure that side ages well. A side that hopes alot , but at the sametime has awareness of possible pitfalls of being yourself ,?( unmasking) relaxing into just being you , and at the sametime after all the years of issues doing that, might be slightly bend towards having anxieties. if that side of yourself may have faced conditional acceptance or even no acceptance . Maybe only at alone times ? to get to be you .( only meant as a thought bubble)
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Other side aspect of the younger brain with hope can come the moments of creativity, when not always contrained by anxieties ?


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16 Jan 2026, 5:39 am

know what you mean Brian . My own experiences with Doctors versus all the years of research and personal experience ,I have accumulated . When I suggest some things they are not exactly good listeners . And the production line mentality ,just does not work. Especially if might be presenting with more than one symtom. Sorry to hear of your experiences too.


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16 Jan 2026, 5:55 am

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know what you mean Brian . My own experiences with Doctors versus all the years of research and personal experience ,I have accumulated . When I suggest some things they are not exactly good listeners . And the production line mentality ,just does not work. Especially if might be presenting with more than one symtom. Sorry to hear of your experiences too.


Thank you, Jakki! It feels like you have to be your own Doctor sometimes. You hit the nail on the head that it is a production line mentality. Thank you so much too :)



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16 Jan 2026, 7:07 pm

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Regarding Ednas Last post ...:D ... yeah... think may occur in older Aspie brains possible , even younger brain possibly? .Maybe off base here .
And this only one opinion.: Like to think , that younger part of the side of the brain. Is what keeps us going .
Think it , just as it is for me, has my younger selfs anxiety . And just maybe that younger side could be sort of a preservative for the alert ND person / Aspie. Not sure that side ages well. A side that hopes alot , but at the sametime has awareness of possible pitfalls of being yourself ,?( unmasking) relaxing into just being you , and at the sametime after all the years of issues doing that, might be slightly bend towards having anxieties. if that side of yourself may have faced conditional acceptance or even no acceptance . Maybe only at alone times ? to get to be you .( only meant as a thought bubble)
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Other side aspect of the younger brain with hope can come the moments of creativity, when not always contrained by anxieties ?

Sure...

And I intend to make it more than just an aspect that experiences anxiety.
Already lived and survived relatively a lifetime without an unnecessary loud danger alarm, proved the whole bit that all of this is an illusion...

I just had to convince itself to be a little more self-assured of itself.
It'll be a bit easier since I have the evidence that those worries are unwarranted.

My most recent realization can very much helped, too -- with the way it process things 'beyond logic' and what kind of language it actually 'speaks'.


Also, I already have this weird split since childhood.
I just manage to froze said half for a decade longer.

Now that my rather dominant egocentric and aggressive half had matured enough, it glees with the idea of self control by having the power of making more room of that jittery half.


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17 Jan 2026, 3:37 am

People saying "ADHD doesn't exist, it's just normal childhood behaviour" is the same as saying "Emetophobia doesn't exist, because nobody likes being sick".


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17 Jan 2026, 4:00 am

My neighbour has that opinion and his grandson was even diagnosed with it

Mind you my neighbour doesn't believe in anything so I take him with a pinch of salt

He reckons he cured his own cancer with cat powders or something


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17 Jan 2026, 4:12 am

I think my depravity level went down during my brush with "the black dog"

It's on its way back up again

Hallelujah!
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17 Jan 2026, 4:44 am

It's nuts innit that during my darkest hour, I would have poured my heart out to the likes of Jimmy Saville if I thought it would have saved my life. It means nothing

I suppose it's a bit like when a person is dying of starvation and they wouldn't turn their nose up at a dead rat if they thought it would save their life

But I know who my friends are


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17 Jan 2026, 4:53 am

Yeah, have met some serious cases of peeps with. ADHD . both people very close to me. maybe a third but she was generally pretty private about it . Let it slip only once , but her actions around certain holidays , amazed me ,I that had not spotted it earlier . 2 out of the three both seemed to like night shift work. Unknown why? bigger pay or suited their personalities .? All three were some of the best people , I had ever met. And each one was very good at almost whatever they put their mind to . And honestly , Am really not very sure these were representative of all of them ?
or just never got to really know any bad ones .


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17 Jan 2026, 5:01 am

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It's nuts innit that during my darkest hour, I would have poured my heart out to the likes of Jimmy Saville if I thought it would have saved my life. It means nothing

I suppose it's a bit like when a person is dying of starvation and they wouldn't turn their nose up at a dead rat if they thought it would save their life

But I know who my friends are


Sorting friends has been one of my worst weaknesses , And cost me dearly . In hardest personal trajedies and financial
also.And much rather had. eaten a dead rat . seriously. But late in life ( so to speak) am beliving may have gotten the
freind thing sorted too , these days . But with the way things seem to go , could always. be surprised . 8O


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