How many close friends do you have

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When it comes to the "we've done a lot of things together" side, I have 1 at school, plus 2 that I email often who are class of 2014 alumni.
When it comes to "close, but haven't done anything with them yet and usually talk to them at lunch" side, I have a few which include the student council President, Vice President and junior class President. They are all nice and respect everyone.
Finally, when it comes to "only say hi in the halls at school" side, there are many many people, which includes a few sophomores.

For a person with HFA, I'm pretty good with friends. But I do well anyways keeping a "false NT" side at school.

Well said, nurseangela! What you just posted is basically my definition of a true friend.

I have 1 close friend. I feel like I can say almost anything to him, but I don't like to talk about my personal life with him. He is the only friend who knows I have autism.

I have lots of online friends. At my school I have 2 other friends who I don't feel comfortable telling about my conditions. There are also people that I just incessantly talk to because they are good listeners. I can just rant and rant and they just listen and occasionally make comments to show they are interested (which I learned in occupational therapy) like "ya" or "okay".

I have 3 female people who value me as their friends, I don't value them in the same way. I also have had people ask to be my friend and I intentionally turned them down.

Don't get worried about having many close friends.

People with ASD can have lots of friends, the approach distinguishes autistic people from neurotypical people. People with ASD having little or no close friends is just an inaccurate stereotype.

When I was 12 I would probably have taken anyone.
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Nah, my memory is messed up. I was totally against 95% of humans.

when i was 12 i was completely oblivious to the fact that my "friends" were just there to use me for a quick laugh and not much more.

When I was 16-17 I was fully aware of the fact that my "friends" were just there to use me for a quick laugh and not much more, but endured it as a strategical move, among other motives to not get completely stomped (metaphorically speaking, lol).
I learned a lot during those 2 years.

Many acquaintances, in all honesty, 2 true girlfriends and 3 real guy friends. I barely speak to the guy friends as they are married, but I know they are my real friends...they've been there for me more than many others. Little by little realizing that what I thought were friends, aren't really friends...they are only friends when they can get something out of me. I love my 2 real girlfriends, although neither lives in the same country I do. I think I am moving to where they are at.

It's hard to tell with online friends. I tend to doubt that they care. Maybe they do and I'm just to messed up to see it. I don't know.

In person I had a friend visit me a little while ago. First time I was physically with a friend in years. Maybe that made the stress worse. But it was a kind gesture on his part.

I have 2 'people' that I visit and share my thoughts with them but I don't socialise with them ..I have been invited but don't feel comfortable to be amongst strangers that are their friends.

I think I am starting a friendship with another mom from my sons Karate, I had told her of my diagnosis when our conversation became confused and she told me she understood as she had two nephews that were on the spectrum, we have gone out for dinner 3 times with the kids (she also is a sole parent). This is the first successful time in a long time that I have socialised. I Feel more at ease with her than any others that have been potential friends most likely because she knows of my diagnosis so I don't have to work so hard and I can be myself.

I don't have any