Were your 20s easier than your teens?

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Same. 20s were immeasurably better than both my teens and 30s.

So far, easier in some ways and harder in others. On the one hand, I have a much more independent life, a job, and the ability to meet people who I choose to associate with rather than people I'm randomly assigned to by a high school registrar. On the other hand, I have to be more independent, hold down a job, and meet people on my own. At times, those can all involve their own challenges, especially balancing the job and the social life. I have a tendency to lean heavily toward the former mainly because it's easier, and to be frank, very few people look down on people who work harder than they really should. In the long run, I know that's neither going to be satisfying not healthy.

Frankly, a lot of these sound like problems that everyone has as a young adult, but having an ASD can make them more severe.

Yes, totally!! I'm turning 26 soon, and so far, so good!
I've never had a romantic relationship, and I feel kinda pathetic at times, but I hope I find the right man one day. I'm still young according to nowadays standards!

24 and in the same boat as you. My 20's so far have been a journey to find myself. I have two work-study jobs at the community college I go to, and a part of a whole bunch of school activities with being treasurer for student government. I am still young and will graduate in a year and a half. Good luck on finding the right man!

Nope because all the crud I'd endured up to my early twenties cascaded down and frothed and boiled, but I hope the journey and effort I have put into combating and confronting and sifting through all that now means the next decade will be easier, can't see how it could get worse than the depths I swam up from!

My 20s were better than my teens, I was happy and naive, but that's no way to live.

Hell yeah. I blame the insecure hood rats who made my senior year a living nightmare.

nightmare started right after highschool, lost my structure - it was like falling in a black hole

Sorry I hadn't seen this! Thanks!!

Yes and no. My last year of high school I was working and I decided to dress myself which I dressed in dress clothes and dress shoes. Everyone thought I was a success and let's just say I was with countless women.

Sadly what I did not realize was that as I dated black women they mainly got with me because they wanted a mixed baby. Yes there are women who literally get with men just to have the kid and live off welfare. They saw mixed kids as a new fashion trend and would send the kids off to free 24 hour daycare well they did whatever. I even had a black butch who grew out her hair to pretend to be straight.

It was a horribly stressful time as I took things to fast without taking my time and when I wanted to take my time during my mid twenties it was a problem that I wish I took my time as I got with someone who used me for a scam marriage for immigration. She got her kid and has me by the balls.

Most of my twenties I had the last of the support from my parents eventually they couldn't take me anymore as I am a loner and wish to be by myself and in an Italian family that doesn't work and during my late 20s I was forced out.

Life in my twenties seems easier but it comes with a whole new share of challenges.

Britain is teeming with females who have children by different fathers just to get welfare or benefits as they are known.

To get back on track - yes, my 20s were easier. I didn't have to go to school for one thing.

Depending on where you're at in the United States as a single mother gets free healthcare, support money from the father, support money from the state, free housing, free daycare, free 24 day care at 24 hour day centers, child tax credit so about a thousand bucks for every child every tax season, free lawyers (For every dollar the state collects in child support they get it back twice from the Federal Government).

Some older baby boomers are trying to change the law to collect child support from their adult children to take care of them when they get older. In my state for example child support has three tiers

* Until the 'child is 18/completed high school or if not graduated once the 'child hits 19'

* Until the Age of 23 if the 'child' goes to college the mother still collects the support but this has changed as feminists have lobbied for the right to collect child support from both mother and father. Typically as the Single Mother walks in assured ready to get her support and the father disagrees with the support order the Family Court Judge will always side with a female thus he will order support from the father but the father at this point can cause an upset ONLY IF THE "CHILD" is a female. The father can request the support to be sent directly to the adult daughter and child support be taken from both parents. Typically at this stage to uplift woman hood the Judge will grant this request and the Single Mother will have a nervous breakdown and start screaming. I seen this happen once in Family Court and it was hilarious as now the Single Mother actually has to get a job or go to jail.

* Forever. Child Support Laws can demand you work until your death even if you are not behind if you have a disabled 'child.' You will never be allowed to retire and if you die support will be taken still and whoever is responsible for the estate still has to request for permission to end child support even after death as death is no excuse in the Family Court system of the United States not support your child.

Funny thing nationally Nancy Pelosi back in 2009 had a Super Majority in the Senate and controlled the Executive Branch with Barrack Obama. After they were pushing unpopular legislation Nancy wished to push child support for the mother nationally till the age of 26 but they decided to go with the Obamacare push as their last act under a Super Majority and Democrats after that election cycle lost their super majority.

Late 20's have been much better than my early 20's or teens. I now have a fiancee, a master's degree, good job prospects, a place to live that isn't my parents' basement and so on. It's a cliché saying, but life does get better (if you work for it).

My 20s were much, much better than my teens years. Teen years were the worst years of my life. I was a total outcast and was mercilessly bullied.

As an adult I am more in control of my life. For example, I am not forced to go to a school where I am outcasted and bullied. If things get too bad at my job I can cut my hours down or quit. You can't do the same with school; you must go where your parents send you. Things got so bad for me in high school that I would hide in the bathroom and cut myself with a razor. I sucked.

It's easier to avoid people as an adult too. During the school years you're forced to be social. It's easier to avoid bullies as an adult. At work I avoid them by pretending to be busy or looking or walking the other way. I avoid going to certain neighborhoods, stores, etc. that I know I will be treated poorly.

In your 20s you're more likely to find others that accept your weirdness, too. Most teens want to be cool so hanging out with an outcast like my self was a no no. Being with me would make them look bad. In general adults don't care about image like that and many are willing to befriend goof balls like myself.

As a teen I wanted a boyfriend but couldn't get one. I mean, who wants to date the ugly, socially awkward, loser girl? I finally got into a relationship at the age of 27, almost 28. I'm still considered ugly and socially awkward in this society but it's easier to find more open minded people as adults. Most teens want the cool, socially acceptable stuff and a "hot" girl is one of them for teen boys. As a teen I was an untouchable to boys.

Man, my 20s were much better than my teens. Life has improved for me drastically since my teen years. Teen years were by far the worst. Even my childhood was better.

The worst thing about being an adult is navigating the social realm of the work force but even then I have some control of that. I've worked multiple jobs and have currently cut my hours down to just a few days a month. It's totally better than being forced to go to school as a teen and resorting to hiding in the bathroom. I feel like I have control of my life and destiny. I felt so hopeless and trapped as a teen.