Did you want to have kids?

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When I was a young person, no way. I wanted a career. When I found out that corporate America turns everyone into big jerks, I didn't want a career anymore. Then I got married and my hormones went baby crazy. I wanted 5, a whole big clan of weirdos, with me as their benevolent leader. I ended up with 3. This was all before autism was a thing, or at least before doctors started recognizing high functioning females. I didn't realize I was Aspie until my 1st daughter was diagnosed when she was 10. I'm kind of benevolent, some of the time, but their leader? No, more like their jailer. They're all freaks like me. Intelligent, creative, kooky, annoying, amazing freaks. They're great, and if they can get through childhood without being murdered by their teachers or falling down a hole, then they will make this world a better place. Because the world is chock full of boring people who live in a bubble of what other people have told them the world is, and autistics see the world for what it really is and what it could be.

No. I never did. I didn't even want to be married. My mother had such an outdated view on marriage she made it seem VERY unappealing. "So you mean as soon as I am finally away from you, I'm just going to have to relinquish my freedom to some dude? No thank you!" I also knew having children would prevent me from doing the things I wanted to do. I also feared I would abuse them. My parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents were abused by their parents so I don't want to continue the cycle. I was abused. Maybe not to the extent some kids are, but it was still abuse. I don't want to do that to my potential future child. I also worry I wouldn't know how to provide them affection.

We have two kids and I love them, but they make me pull my hair out...

I have shed quite a few tears for my kids when I have seen them suffer due to Aspergers, but I would still do it again.

Now we know why you're bald.