Where to meet potential lovers?

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The friends I do have I met while playing games with them or at some kind of fishing activity. When playing games with people, you get to know them a little and learn enough about them to have a somewhat meaningful conversation. I've gone to a couple social events at my church and it's just people standing around talking. Because I don't know anyone, I have no reason to talk to anyone. I don't know anyone well enough or at all actually to know what to talk to them about. I don't know why I'd want to go start talking with person X over person Y.

For me, with strangers, talking is about the exchange of information. If I don't know a person, I don't know if they know something I need or should ask them about. And likewise, I don't know if there's something I know that they don't that I should tell them about. I've had people suggest that I ask them about their job or where they work. For me, that's dumb. I don't know this person at all so why do I care about their job? The odds are, that I wouldn't see this person again anyway, so how would the information of where they work benefit me at all later on? I've just spent time and energy and possibly stress (depending on the situation) to obtain a completely meaningless bit of information.

With friends, things are completely different, or even if I know the person enough. I actually care about them and know I'll interact with them more in the future so that kind of information could be relevant.

This is indeed an excellent way to make friends.


If they happen to have a job that's relevant to your own career goal, or if they happen to have a job that's somehow relevant to another interest of yours, you might ask them if it's okay to stay in touch to ask them for advice at some point. Or if they happen to own or work at a business that you might at some point have occasion to be a customer of, you could ask for their business card.

This is called business networking, and it's one of the main ways that people find jobs, among many other potential practical benefits.

If you met them at your church, you likely will see them again. And you never know when (or how) it might come in handy to know who at your church does what.