Do any of you no longer get crushes?

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Certainly understand that and been there. Spent a good portion of my life depressed for that reason. Some of us do seem to turn our feelings up to 11.

To get a crush, first you have to interact with someone that appeals to you. Since solar eclipses are more common, I don't get given the chance to take into account that the one I'm supposed to be drooling in reaction to, plus losing heaps of sleep is still human, and coughs, sneezes, burps, farts, defecates, gets sick, chews food, has a dynamic anatomy, and everything else I've left out. They will also grow old.

I'm probably a little harder to please nowadays compared to before. But this is most likely due meself acclimatising to the ever increasing probability that a relationship is simply not worth the trouble. And that I'm on a dead end road trying to get along with somebody enough to make them tolerate me in a manner beyond friendship.

Ingesting their saliva, food particles, even the odd hair, and noticing every skin cell close up when they're sick, even before the main course is just a little beyond gross. But grossness isn't the deterrent. It's social anxiety and depression that kills the interaction before it even starts. So what hope do I have? I am type 2 diabetic uncontrolled, with continuous high calory food intake. It has almost killed me. Will I wake up dead before or after a certain xxxx-stone? I still perceive even very small levels of intimacy as being beyond reach, due to the potential intense arousal, and lack of self regulation. Not that I would ever even dream of sexually mistreating the unfortunate soul who happens to fall for the trap. I hate misconduct in this context. I don't want to make another enemy. In such a context, it seems like mUTAGEN cannot be a bingo. This is a phrase I enjoy a lot. Not that anybody gives a rats at all.

I still get crushes although I’m not sure if that’s the right word. I always find this stuff difficult to describe.

I automatically assume that ladies are beyond my (very minimal) ability to decode. Hence I just accept that the status quo will remain intact until the day I wake up dead.

Probably mentioned 1385 times by now. But Diabetty has more or less killed my then already minimal attire for ladies. With vital elements of the brain enduring obvious suboptimal functionality, this post is something I can merely confide in to further tire me out, and forget about yesterday. I have personally found long lasting interactions to be impossible unless proven otherwise with all genders. I am unpredictable, repetitive, and erratic. One would be better off in an asylum, or even jail than living with me. There is no broad definition as to whether I get along better with ND or NTs better in general.

I haven't had a crush on anybody in 31 years.

Same.

I think this is some of the case for me. I've had one major crush & it was on a celeb who very likely literally has no clue I even exist. That started during an 8 year stretch of me being single after my fist relationship ended & I was very depressed. The crush was partly a coping mechanism to feel a tad better. There could be an element of psychosis mixed in as well since my depression turned psychotic for a while around the time my first relationship ended if not around the time that relationship started or when we first became friends. There's various women I find attractive & liked talking to but I would not call any them crushes except I guess one. Being with my current girlfriend for 13 years might help prevent me from developing other crushes as well as me not interacting with many people regularly.

I'll add that I have no problem with the OP being both asexual & aromantic.

Last edited by nick007 on 14 May 2025, 8:17 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I don't know, it depends on how you define a crush I think. I still find some people extremely interesting and worth getting to know more about, but not in a possessive, sexual, or romantic way.

I still get crushes

I think I do but I don't know because I don't understand what it's supposed to feel like

None as of recent, but knowing my mom and my NT sister, I'll get accused of
being in a relationship just to have sex outside of marriage.