Have people insisted you're faking ASD?

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It really sucks when people just assume we're faking it, like our experiences don't count. Just know you're not alone, and it's okay to call that out.

I've never had anyone within the past few years insist I'm faking, because it's pretty obvious. My ability to interact with people and mask varies sometimes wildly day by day though, depending on the social energy I have, so I think some people might think I'm not actually as affected as I am and that I maybe fake problems with communication that I have (like I usually apparently don't talk very well and I talk in a weird sing-songy tone, but some days I can manage to focus on speaking better and talk way better, which throws people off). Those are unimportant people that I don't interact with often enough for them to understand me or for me to worry about it though.

^ I can relate to that

Not that I can recall, I tend not to tell people directly and people who know have never questioned me on it. I posted a selfie on facebook of a tshirt that says "severely acoustic" with pictures of instruments on it, and said on the caption that irreverant memes are how I make peace with being assigned a label. A few people who I never disclosed to liked the post with no further comment.

I don't mind people doubting my diagnosis, but to be accused of faking it is a whole different matter. I've had someone online on another forum accuse me of literally faking my ASD and accusing me of doing it for attention-seeking. That really got my blood boiling and because the mods were unhelpful I felt powerless to do anything about it and the thread is still there to this day (even though I'm not any more). It was a personal attack on me to create a whole thread ranting about me, indirectly but still very obviously. It's just not acceptable. While I'm always doubting my diagnosis, there is still no way that I'm lying about having being diagnosed with the condition. My posts are often heartfelt and emotional, anyone can see that I'm not some NT troll posing as an Aspie, as it becomes clear who is trolling and who isn't, and a troll most certainly would not devote a lot of time on autism sites to chat and confide with people and talk deeply about their past and have meaningful discussions and empathise with others. So that was a very harsh accusation made against me, all because I got muddled up with Asperger's, BAP and PDD-NOS.

On this site 10 years ago. Not me personally but older autistic members in general were doubted because "somebody would have picked it up". Of course only the most severe autistics were picked up when we were growing up. While we were not accused of faking a condition few knew about we had all the not trying hard enough, and attention seeking etc. We did not take kindly to being accused on what was supposed support site what we have been accused of our whole life.