Matchmaking and Love On The Spectrum

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I don't know whether matchmaking and dating sites have that much in common. With traditional matchmaking, you have a matchmaker who maintains a clientele and decides whom to match with whom, based on experience (I suppose). I believe that when a matchmaker says they have a match, you're expected to at least meet that person.

Doing this on a larger scale would require some sort of algorithm but it would have to be different from whatever these sites seem to use. I happen not to believe in the usual convention that people with similar interests are naturally compatible, although there are certainly dealbreakers that must be respected. This is one area in which AI could possibly be a huge benefit. Perhaps such a service could employ some human matchmakers but they would in turn try to communicate to the hypothetical AI would they look for in a potential match.

Anyway, a matchmaking service like I said would find matches and then you'd go on some sort of meetup. However I don't think I would have people go on dinner dates as in Love on the Spectrum. Regardless, there'd be no swipe left or swipe right. You'd meet up with whomever they choose.

Anything is better than a dating site making a profit.

The algorithm to generate more money involves preventing you matching anyone close enough to meet, and censoring phone numbers and addresses to force you to continue using the service.
You'd be better off PMing everyone in here. (No...I'm not advocating that... Might as well force-feed a coeliac Weetabix (because you'll end up with breakfast cereal where it hurts))

The guy with long blonde hair was funny to watch

Remember another guy saying he'd protect his date at the zoo if a lion attacked her

Wish the older guy in San Francisco found love he had such a great attitude

He may be asexual without being aware.

But not aromantic

Exactly!

Actually, that sort of explains why there are very few actual match-making websites. They are mostly geared toward micro-relationships (as stated on another thread-I just learned this term).

There really isn't anything that I've found for people who are looking for long-term relationships.

I disagree with you both.

Apps/Websites can't force behaviors nor mating strategies, it's the humans on these apps/websites who choose to behave/select the way they do; the owners observe and see how to monetize it.

I can give concrete examples but that would be off-topic.

I've been a bit unlucky in love, too many casual flings and stuff like that. Failed serious relationships. I've started to daydream about getting my friends and family to set me up with someone and do an arranged marriage lol.
I don't like shows like love on the spectrum because people use it as inspiration porn or a nature doc and it bothers me. But if I got desperate enough, f**k it, throw me on there. Make me into a TV sideshow act for all I care as long as I get to settle down for once.

I related to liking the idea of an arranged marriage due to desperation & feeling hopeless about finding someone. I believe I could have a decent relationship with most women if they were willing to give me a real chance & would be committed to making the relationship work like trying to find compromises that work for both of us.

I never liked the idea of being on TV though so I probably would not have gone that route if it was an option when I was single. Plus I'm very skeptical that someone with a combo of all of my issues would be able to get a long term relationship from being on TV. I never watched Love On The Spectrum but dating shows in general tend to be very shallow & superficial (a prime example is 90s MTV show Singled Out which was originally hosted by McCarthy). Any dates I would get from a TV show would probably only be dating me to get on TV or because the show paid them & things would end between us once the show was finished filming.

My tv idea was a bit facetious, coz yeah, I agree. I wouldn't trust any date on a TV show to be 100% genuine or natural, it would play on my mind too much. And tbf I think I would make for boring TV, atleast on a show like love on the spectrum. I don't have the "aww" factor that mainstream audiences are drawn to. I'm too subtle if you get me. And no one on my wavelength would dream of going on there anyway so there'd be no matches. And I def wouldn't match with anyone on the normie dating shows, they're on a different wavelength from the other direction!

I would love to have someone set me up on a date. Alas I do not think anyone likes me enough to help me get a date. Being in a relationship is my biggest goal in life. I have still never been past a second date but I would love to be in a relationship.

I do not have many friends. The only people I am close to are my parents and an aunt and an uncle. About two years ago I sat them down and explained to them all the struggles I have been having trying to get dates and see if they know anyone I might be interested in dating.

They told me they did not. That was hard on me. But I am still totally open to being set up on a date. Like I said being in a relationship is the most important (and really only) goal in my life.