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21 Dec 2025, 11:43 pm

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What percentage of women working full-time would you estimate are willing to date a 40 year-old man who will probably never be able to work or drive, and who has impaired social skills?

My understanding is that most women don't want a perpetually dependent man to take care of, and if the OP and a working woman moved out together, it's fair to asume that the woman would have to take care of most of the bills. Are there many women out there that would really be okay with that arrangement long-term?


I really hope the OP isn't also holding out for an attractive financially stable 18-25 yr old neurotypical female who is looking/willing/able to take care of a 40 yr old autistic unemployed man.

even in the realm of fantasy novels that's too unbelievable to be published as fiction.



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21 Dec 2025, 11:55 pm

cyberdora wrote:
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
What percentage of women working full-time would you estimate are willing to date a 40 year-old man who will probably never be able to work or drive, and who has impaired social skills?

My understanding is that most women don't want a perpetually dependent man to take care of, and if the OP and a working woman moved out together, it's fair to asume that the woman would have to take care of most of the bills. Are there many women out there that would really be okay with that arrangement long-term?


I really hope the OP isn't also holding out for an attractive financially stable 18-25 yr old neurotypical female who is looking/willing/able to take care of a 40 yr old autistic unemployed man.

even in the realm of fantasy novels that's too unbelievable to be published as fiction.

Hahaha, I appreciate your dry wit, good sir.



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22 Dec 2025, 12:01 am

^^^ I mean I would be the first to admit holding unrealistic expectations when I was in my 30s. Reality hit me like a sledgehammer.



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22 Dec 2025, 12:18 am

cyberdora wrote:
^^^ I mean I would be the first to admit holding unrealistic expectations when I was in my 30s. Reality hit me like a sledgehammer.

I'd have to agree with that. I don't think you can claim to be an adult until you've had all of your dreams completely crushed.

Oh well, it adds character :lol:



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22 Dec 2025, 12:55 am

Canadian Freedom Lover wrote:
cyberdora wrote:
^^^ I mean I would be the first to admit holding unrealistic expectations when I was in my 30s. Reality hit me like a sledgehammer.

I'd have to agree with that. I don't think you can claim to be an adult until you've had all of your dreams completely crushed.

Oh well, it adds character :lol:


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22 Dec 2025, 9:29 pm

Canadian Freedom Lover wrote:
cyberdora wrote:
^^^ I mean I would be the first to admit holding unrealistic expectations when I was in my 30s. Reality hit me like a sledgehammer.

I'd have to agree with that. I don't think you can claim to be an adult until you've had all of your dreams completely crushed.

Oh well, it adds character :lol:


Hmm...would that mean Squidward is more of a true "adult" than SpongeBob?



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23 Dec 2025, 3:11 am

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
Canadian Freedom Lover wrote:
cyberdora wrote:
^^^ I mean I would be the first to admit holding unrealistic expectations when I was in my 30s. Reality hit me like a sledgehammer.

I'd have to agree with that. I don't think you can claim to be an adult until you've had all of your dreams completely crushed.

Oh well, it adds character :lol:


Hmm...would that mean Squidward is more of a true "adult" than SpongeBob?

In my opinion, yes it does.



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26 Dec 2025, 9:12 pm

So basically my fathers gun & suicide is the only option, thanks for confirming that i am 100% worthless then.



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27 Dec 2025, 12:21 am

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So basically my fathers gun & suicide is the only option, thanks for confirming that i am 100% worthless then.

Why would you say that?



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27 Dec 2025, 12:48 am

the only reason i cant work is because of social skills, i used to operate heavy machinery for a family years ago, did Scooba diving attaching trees to a boom and dragged them back to a mill via boat where i then operated major cutting machines, i can work and have done so before, i say cant work now because all that stuff i did was for family and I've no paperwork proving i did it and i still do parkour, Comicon, and many other public events and i live stream on twitch with a large viewership of around 500 or more when i stream, i am also very good at graphic design, so good that I've gotten many offers from Disney but declined them due to need to relocate to work with their team in NOA. I design fill characters for virtamate, make full scenes and have been making my own vr games for a few years and am extremily good at it, i did take a 3 year training course on graphics design and animation a few years back, so i have talents, i can talk to people fine in public, its just i say random weird things sometimes and am socialy awkward af. i used to baby sit too as a side job, i was the goi to guy for kids daycares couldnt handle, as i have a gooft playful but manchild personality so i have good things about me and skills, i am just awkward af and my nervisness shows in front of any girls i do bump into. ill leave my grammer errors alone so you can also see how screwed up my english is lol.



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27 Dec 2025, 2:06 am

So you are capable of working. You're just not working at the moment. That's something you can fix.



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27 Dec 2025, 2:23 am

You have quite an impressive range of creative talent. All of us have strong snd weak points, and usually creative skills are strong compared to social and people skills.

Nonetheless, it's possible to find people willing to be in a relationship with us. She/he might find a particular trait attractive. There are some who are easier to talk to than others.

You seem to have projects on the go that can or do bring in an income, as there are few who are willing to be in a relationship where only one of the two can supply all the needs of life.


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