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13 Jan 2026, 4:23 pm

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^My guess is credit card debt.

My girlfriend is on SSI & defaulted on most of her credit cards in the last couple years due to her depression causing her to spend more & she couldn't afford keep paying the interest. One card even started lowering her limit as she made payments & Cass realized that she would not be able to use the card even if she would have kept paying it. After she defaulted she started making small payments of like $10 a month & not much is happening with them.

However one card sent her something in the mail right after she defaulted but she didn't receive anything else from them till about 9 months later when someone from the sheriff department knocked on our apartment door to serve her papers about being sued by the credit card company. Cass filled out the paperwork & checked online & realized some other forms are usually included as well which she printed & also filled out & mailed. A status conference was already scheduled for close to a month after she was served. The conference could of been done remotely by something like Zoom but we went to court & the attorney doing the lawsuit did it remotely. The attorney asked Cass if she could afford any monthly payments & Cass responded No. The attorney said she'd ask to put a judgement on Cass's credit report but not attempt a garnishment & they'll review again a couple years later. Cass has a judgement on her report but no garnishment. Cass was planning to start paying a tiny bit on that card shortly after defaulting but she decided not to pay anything since the next time she received something was the papers saying she was being sued. We're not going to reward hardball tactics, especially when they added to the amount Cass owes(legal & court fees).


I was depressed & kept spending more money too. I wish I have friend who can let me borrow $2,500



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13 Jan 2026, 4:28 pm

I wish I had a friend like that as well


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13 Jan 2026, 5:11 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:
nick007 wrote:
^My guess is credit card debt.

My girlfriend is on SSI & defaulted on most of her credit cards in the last couple years due to her depression causing her to spend more & she couldn't afford keep paying the interest. One card even started lowering her limit as she made payments & Cass realized that she would not be able to use the card even if she would have kept paying it. After she defaulted she started making small payments of like $10 a month & not much is happening with them.

However one card sent her something in the mail right after she defaulted but she didn't receive anything else from them till about 9 months later when someone from the sheriff department knocked on our apartment door to serve her papers about being sued by the credit card company. Cass filled out the paperwork & checked online & realized some other forms are usually included as well which she printed & also filled out & mailed. A status conference was already scheduled for close to a month after she was served. The conference could of been done remotely by something like Zoom but we went to court & the attorney doing the lawsuit did it remotely. The attorney asked Cass if she could afford any monthly payments & Cass responded No. The attorney said she'd ask to put a judgement on Cass's credit report but not attempt a garnishment & they'll review again a couple years later. Cass has a judgement on her report but no garnishment. Cass was planning to start paying a tiny bit on that card shortly after defaulting but she decided not to pay anything since the next time she received something was the papers saying she was being sued. We're not going to reward hardball tactics, especially when they added to the amount Cass owes(legal & court fees).


I was depressed & kept spending more money too. I wish I have friend who can let me borrow $2,500

It is a very bad idea to lend money to a friend.



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13 Jan 2026, 6:24 pm

The best option is to stop overspending in the first place. I have and that's why I have £14,000 in savings and no debt.


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13 Jan 2026, 6:38 pm

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The best option is to stop overspending in the first place. I have and that's why I have £14,000 in savings and no debt.

I totally agree, Rossall. Congrats on your savings.



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13 Jan 2026, 8:06 pm

Rossall wrote:
The best option is to stop overspending in the first place. I have and that's why I have £14,000 in savings and no debt.


I don't know how much that is in UK dollars, but I know that alot of money. I used to have $8,000 in savings.



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13 Jan 2026, 8:09 pm

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Rossall wrote:
The best option is to stop overspending in the first place. I have and that's why I have £14,000 in savings and no debt.


I don't know how much that is in UK dollars, but I know that alot of money. I used to have $8,000 in savings.
Think it's about $20,000 Definitely avoid uneccesary spending kitty and avoid expensive loans.


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13 Jan 2026, 8:14 pm

I guess this site no good either, it is a debt relief site.

https://start.nationaldebtrelief.com/ap ... 1759763998



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13 Jan 2026, 8:20 pm

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I guess this site no good either, it is a debt relief site.

https://start.nationaldebtrelief.com/ap ... 1759763998

Looks OK. I got into a load of debt years ago and the local council helped me sort it out. I bloody hate debt now.


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13 Jan 2026, 8:32 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:
I guess this site no good either, it is a debt relief site.

https://start.nationaldebtrelief.com/ap ... 1759763998

It looks like a debt consolidation service. Prolly wont help you because it wont change your behavior of getting into debt. It would only help you if you changed your behavior.



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04 Feb 2026, 1:39 pm

I wish I can get a loan, I HAVE TO GET OUT OF HERE. The staff is killing me, they keep making things worse, I feel like I'm going get a mental breakdown, they were a few times when I went soooooo crazy, I'm getting dangerously close to getting a mental breakdown. No one want to help me. I wish I can die in my sleep.



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04 Feb 2026, 2:21 pm

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I wish I can get a loan, I HAVE TO GET OUT OF HERE. The staff is killing me, they keep making things worse, I feel like I'm going get a mental breakdown, they were a few times when I went soooooo crazy, I'm getting dangerously close to getting a mental breakdown. No one want to help me. I wish I can die in my sleep.

How is your credit score?



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04 Feb 2026, 7:57 pm

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Kitty4670 wrote:
I wish I can get a loan, I HAVE TO GET OUT OF HERE. The staff is killing me, they keep making things worse, I feel like I'm going get a mental breakdown, they were a few times when I went soooooo crazy, I'm getting dangerously close to getting a mental breakdown. No one want to help me. I wish I can die in my sleep.

How is your credit score?


My score is 613, that cuz of my debts, I'm paying some money.



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04 Feb 2026, 10:42 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:
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Kitty4670 wrote:
I wish I can get a loan, I HAVE TO GET OUT OF HERE. The staff is killing me, they keep making things worse, I feel like I'm going get a mental breakdown, they were a few times when I went soooooo crazy, I'm getting dangerously close to getting a mental breakdown. No one want to help me. I wish I can die in my sleep.

How is your credit score?


My score is 613, that cuz of my debts, I'm paying some money.

Thats better than I thought. I recently saw someone online who had a credit score of 4. There are two main methods to payoff debt and thats the debt avalanche and the debt snowball. The debt avalanche pays off higher interest debt first. The debt snowball starts off smallest to largest.



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05 Feb 2026, 3:28 am

If someone ,is pushing ( suggesting) you to take out a loan? you best examine your circumstances very carefully .
Not good , to take out loans in order to help anyone but you . Old saying , by founding father of the USA , " neither a borrower or a lender be ".
Best way to avoid scams, is not to be a part of one . Nor taking a chance to be a part of one .( just in case) imho.


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05 Feb 2026, 12:29 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:
I wish I can get a loan, I HAVE TO GET OUT OF HERE. The staff is killing me, they keep making things worse, I feel like I'm going get a mental breakdown, they were a few times when I went soooooo crazy, I'm getting dangerously close to getting a mental breakdown. No one want to help me. I wish I can die in my sleep.
I do not understand how getting a loan would allow you to move our unless your wanting a loan to buy a house. If your wanting to buy a house, it's extremely unlikely that you would be approved for a mortgage due to your low monthly income, lowish credit score, & currently owing other debts. If your planning to move into an apartment, getting a loan won't help unless the loan is only supposed to cover the initial upfront costs like the first month's rent & security deposit & your regular monthly income like SSI would be more than enough to cover your monthly rent, utilities, & groceries & such. If your wanting to move to an apartment, there may be some government programs & non-profit groups that would be willing to help with the initial costs. It sounds like your living situation is very frustrating, perhaps there's some other types of assisted living facilities in your extended area that you would be allowed to move into like other nursing homes or group homes.


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