No life, and a boyfriend who wants to keep it that way

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You might get housing benefit or DLA? Have a look at that maybe? It might be a route to your getting out.

Is your computer bugged?

I don't want to leave him, I just want him to give up being like he is. and I do get a very small ammount of DLA, it was cut after the supported housing place I used to live at filled a reveiw form in wrong.

Well there's not a lot I can do to help you. I thought you wanted to get out. Whatever, it's not a healthy relationship and the best way to increase your self-esteem would be to leave. This man is no good for you. If you carry on you will only feel worse as the months and years roll by.

It sounds like he doesn't make you happy and you are basically using him for a place to live. Is this the case? If so, your only option is to find another place to live or go on being miserable.

No, I do love him, I just hate who he has turned into.

You're weeing in the wind if you think you can change someone. Getting out is the only way to go if you want a life.

Well, don't leave. Ignore his threats to throw you out and continue to do what you want. If he truly loves you, he won't throw you out. If he does throw you out, the relationship is obviously not going to work out.

I would do this, I just know I would not last very long homeless, it's not that I'm using him for a place to stay, as if it got that bad I would have to live on the streets.

Why would you have to live on the streets? Your outlook is depressive. You don't know what could happen until it does.

No money, no family prepaired to help etc.

What are your social skills like?

You need to start visualizing what you'll do if he ever does kick you out. Start doing some research on what it'll take to land on your feet. This will dramatically reduce the power you feel he has over you and make it so much easier to leave if you feel that's what you'll eventually have to do.

To keep things simple, just focus on what it'll take financially first.

Depends on the situation, but I'm an ass to live with, I think if we did not live together, we would be just fine.

hey, you are in the UK, stand up to him, if he kicks you out, you can come stay with me =)

i would pick you up, whereever you lived

See, there's two men who'll rescue you.

The sad thing is, if we did not live together, we would be ok.