Males were my bullies

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whoa! my bully stories are relative tame i moved to a few schools cos of my dads job and was bullied at all of them.
at each one it was this one boy, who would pick on me and a bunch of others would join in (both sexes). nothing would be done about it no matter how much i and my parents complained.

as for work life i have not copped any harassment only the stuff trainee staff tend to cop from coworkers above them that think that since they are above them they are better then them and are therefore entitled to more respect. (by this i mean being bugged to do things, by saying so and so said u are to do this, when it was their job and then taking the credit for it).

It's unfortunate that men in our society, feel that they can still club us over our heads, and drag us around, live cavemen.

In the early grades, I got bashed up by boys and it left emotional scars because the teachers blamed me and didn't do anything to stop them. The girls tended to go more for leaving me out of activities.

I think parents always say this, but bullying is generally used to make other people feel bad. Those kids who bully know how to sweet talk other people if they like them, sodoesn't make sense why they'd bully someone they liked.

Hmm, I was treated mean by girls, but boys bullied me more than girls.

They would smack me around, say horrible things, and just be jerks.

I never had a problem with girls AT ALL in highschool. Well, none that I gave a s**t about anyway.

I'm a male and have been bullied by both, mostly males.

There are only three girls that I recall bullying me. Some girls would stick up for me, telling the boys to leave me alone, sometimes.

The first girl bully was my friends sister in San Antonio, Texas. I was 4-5, she was 13-14. Her parents would send her to her friends when I came over so that she couldn't bully me.

The second one was another sister of a friend in Japan. I think I was 8, she was a year or so older than her brother, who I think was 7, so she was about my age. Eventually I made a deal with her, that if she won a kicking fight with me she'd leave me alone. She kicked the crap out of my legs. But was true to her word.

The third girl was here, in Florida, during middle school with her gang. On the bus, she'd mess with everyone, even the driver.

I could fill a small book on all of the boy bullies.

My final comment tonight as one of my NT children wishes to use the computer. As a family we must share.

I concur with all those who were bullied by males as children. I am still bullied but now I am able to return clever retorts and carefully document in order to lay complaints. The females did not start bullying until the males initiated this. Childhood was such an agonizing period of existence that I am glad it can never be repeated, unless F. Nietszche was correct regarding his concept of Eternal Recurrence. But experiencing hatred helped me to understand how human beings can hate so deeply that this justifies/leads to genocidal practices.

Hm, I'm not bullied by either gender, just ignored.

Wow. I was bullied by the boys as well, and it was the damn boys who would say snide comments, and start rumors about me being a lesbian, which was half right, but still.

The irony was the girls were more direct and to my face, which didn't seem as bad as the boys. If the boys weren't trying to pick a fight or knocking me into the lockers (lockers as in highschool!) or trying to knock the books out of my arms, they were trying to grab my breasts, and grab hard!

Who got the idea girls were somehow more socially sneaky? Geez, the boys were pretty good at it, too, and were violent. In fact, most of the girls seemed to like me, and helped me, and when some girls would be nasty to me (and to my face), there were girls who would stick up for me. Boys? Forget it.

Boys, I think, found me threatening because I wasn't interested in the girl stuff and preferred history and science to the artsycraftsycooking (this was back when home-ec still existed), which meant I had to work with the boys on projects. And since I was a "brain," they didn't like getting shown up in their own masculine interests by a mere girl.

The only way the taunting and violence stopped was when a boy who kept pulling my hair and hitting me in the back of the head finally pushed it too far. I had been ignoring him like a nerd, until I melted down. I kicked his dumb ass and pulled out a hank of hair on top of it, and all of his friends thought it was funny.

Sixteen years old, and to get left alone, I had to kick some guy's ass. Where were the adults? That situation could have backfired on me, and very badly.

Metta, Rjaye.

Getting knocked onto concrete and being concussed as a result certainly didn't seem to me to be boys flirting. It was more like they were behaving like little brats.

I was bullied viciously by females and to this day I have difficulty trusting females or opening up to females. If I find myself in a room where everyone is female I will have a "fight or flight" panic feeling. I'm always wary of interacting with them, and whenever they say something to me, even well-meaning, I automatically assume it's an attack of some kind, or that there is an ulterior motive. I really wish I were not this way, because the truth is you need to evaluate each person on an individual basis, regardless of gender, and I know I've missed out on friendships with interesting and wonderful women because I was not able to connect to them due to my paranoia and trauma.

Hmm, I don't get such a bad reaction to other women as that but I often get a vaguely suspicious feeling as if I have to be on guard. It is a bit like when two strange dogs approach each other warily; not growling but hairs a bit on end, until they are sure there isn't a threat.

I wish I'd known how to defend myself when I was little and thumped the bullies back.

This thread dredges up a lot of unpleasant memories for me. I was bullied by both genders all the way through grade and high school. Both were damaging in their own way. But instead of mistrusting genders, I find I mistrust certain types of people that remind me of the people who bullied me.

The girls would spread rumors about me, pick fights with me, and invite me to their lunch table under the guise of being friends. Then when I sat with them, they would do that condescending thing only girls do: Very sarcastically pretend to be nice, ask probing questions, and make fun of how I dressed or my grooming habits. Then when I got upset and left they'd all burst out laughing. Most years I had friends, but one year when I moved to a new school, I spent my lunch period hiding in the bathroom.

Boys would mostly just make an off-the-cuff observation about me and laugh about it. As a little girl I was poor (and thus poorly dressed), fat, and didn't like to brush my hair, so boys thought it was the height of comedy to try to convince me that they wanted to be my boyfriend. Now, I knew better, but it still hurt a lot.

I am automatically suspicious of any pretty, popular female who wants to befriend me, and any male who shows possible romantic interest in me. I tend to dismiss them out of hand or be rude to them to drive them away.

I hope you are able to learn to trust some males someday. Your "Oh really?" comment was inappropriate, regardless of intonation. But you have AS, it's a textbook case of you not picking up on a social cue...we all do it. Just try to learn from things like that. Adults are much kinder than children. It's very rare that I find anyone who treats me badly. Try to judge others on an individual basis....most stereotypes that you assign people will turn out to be false.

I've been bullied by men, women, parents, teachers, and authority figures of all sorts. Most of my bullies have been heterosexual males (not to stereotype) and females of all sorts and I much prefer the company of gay or 'fruity acting' men.