Anybody ever have an uncrushable crush?

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i have two that have lasted a very looong time...both of them since i was in my teens, and one that is more recent.
the first guy, i thought i was going to marry (yup...young and foolish and full of romantic ideals) and we were best friends. we played in a band together in high school with a bunch of other friends. we both liked each other, but we never managed to hook up...just seemed a little awkward. we both cried at my wedding. (it wasn't him i was marrying) and then we lost touch for a number of years (like the last 10...lol) and then i found out where he was playing a gig and showed up to surprise him...and boy did it ever...when i walked in, he actually stopped playing and almost ruined the song they were playing! ha! and i knew then that i still had my little 'crush'... and with the way he acted, too, i think it was one of those times when you say to yourself...'did i do the right thing? did i marry the right person?...' makes for some heavy thinking....

the other guy is another one i went to school with and we're still friends to this day. he dated two of my friends in high school, and i don't think he ever knew that i liked him...still doesn't. we just had a lot of the same interests and hung out together a lot because of these interests. it's not as intense as the abovementioned one...but just a little one.

sometimes i think i'm too old for this kind of thing...but it's all good...makes me feel young again!

but shhhh....don't tell my husband...lol!

*sigh* Oh yes I have a big crush on someone who is married. Just like the OP, it will fade a bit but as soon as I see this person it's back in full force.

six months and sill going strong
I don't get to see him very much, but I can tell he's interested...just need time! (Stupid school)

Well, now my crush and his wife are moving away. Mixed feelings, as you can see. It will be a relief. Actually, it was getting better, because I interacted with him a few times, casually, and it seemed to destroy the "mystique." But it's just as well they are going. It will be more peaceful. This crush acted as a catalyst for me joining an online dating service. I am tired of crushes. I would like a relationship in real time.

Yeah, I have one...kinda reminds me of what whatamess said. I wonder if this will be the guy I still think about when I'm married and 40. Our relationship ended badly... we were ridiculously close for our ages, but too young to know not to abuse that closeness. I love my current boyfriend, but I don't know if I'll ever quite be at that level with another human being again. Sometimes I even wonder if ANYONE should be that close. He broke up with me which broke my heart, and then stopped talking to me after I wouldn't take him back when I got a new boyfriend a month later. The end of that contact broke my heart a second time, which I didn't even know was possible.

A year later, he contacted me over aim and I suddenly started thinking about him again. I've thought about him on and off ever since, since he'll frequently IM me, but won't see me in person. Now I realize I don't know if I could handle seeing him in person. I think I would either cry, or faint, or both...which would be complicated.


Two years ago I found a posting he put on craigslist, of all places, saying that he was still in love with me and everything had been his fault. I cried over that posting for about a week. ...he always had a way with prose

Well, the one I had on my childhood sweetheart got killed after twelve years or so when I found out he's gay. XD

But the first girl I fell in love with happened to be my best friend. And I watched her fall in love with another of our friends, go out with, break up with, and literally fall apart over. She's in Australia now, and it's finally finished.

Ew, this is nasty...yes. Well, at the time. Back in school, there was this guy I fell for when I was 17. He was 19.

I fell for him painfully, and completely. He was the only guy I'd ever met who actually talked to me - about spirituality and politics and deep stuff. I was naive enough to think that because we went around together all the time, we were boyfriend and girlfriend. Even after I found out he was going round some older woman's house on weekends, I wasn't convinced that he actually had any kind of relationship with her. Even after I 'fessed up and we had the long conversation in which he explained that it wasn't possible, he loved me as a friend but, blah blah...he carried on seeing me. He spent New Year's Eve with me and some other mutual friends. He kissed me (and later claimed it didn't happen). It only stopped after the girlfriend confronted me and told me to 'stop following him around'. (He'd told her a very different story.) To add to the complication, the girlfriend was the leader of the meditation group we both belonged to, and she was simultaneously chasing me up to get me to go to a ceremony in London that I now, for obvious reasons, had no desire to attend.

There was a hiatus of about a year during which I was involved, disastrously, with two other guys. Then I managed to fall back into seeing Crush Guy again. And by now he'd left the older woman. And we spent another six months going everywhere together. Then he told his mom, in front of me, all about some other girl he'd met. And soon after that he wrote me a snotty letter in which he claimed I was acting like a stupid schoolgirl and not to pester him again.

If I think of him now, it's only in the hope that whoever's in charge of karma has paid him back very richly for the way he handled the situation.

I know how you feel. I've fallen for someone and I know he's interested in me, but he's still got entanglements with his ex-girlfriend and he's just generally too screwed up to leap into any sort of relationship right now, even something casual and non-committed. If he were married or conventionally attached it might be easier, because I could just write it off as a bad idea and wait for it to pass. But as it is, I think there might be potential for something, at least something casual and low pressure, if I stay around, not too close and not too far away, and act supportive.

But at least the obsessive element to my feelings has abated, and I'll be satisfied even if it fizzles as long as we remain friends. I'm sure my feelings will cool further if nothing continues to happen.

I hope your crush abates too.

I know the feeling :/ But I don't think I have the guts to tell my story, at least not at the moment...

yeah. I have two, one I have mentioned quite a bit here...and the second, luckily, I am currently partnered up with.

Yes, try 4 years.

Obsession over someone who has no idea or doesn't care.