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You didn't say that and I didn't accuse you of being sexist or generalizing. I made a special point of saying that you didn't say that lol. I said, in reply to the poster who suggested the women-only forum, that it would be over-generalizing to suggest this. I guess it was confusing because I was addressing the other replies to your post as well as your original post. Since I put everything in one reply, I can see where you might think I was criticizing you but that wasn't the case.

For the record, I don't think you are sexist towards men. I do think you have a tendency to get agitated when we men bring up legitimate problems we have with the way some women treat us (not all, just most that many of us have been interested in)... the nice guy vs. jerk phenomena, the "friend zone" phenomena, etc. Even though they aren't aimed at you, I think you have a tendency to take those personally, just from reading your responses to those threads. But like it or not, they are real issues that many of us have dealt with all of our lives and pointing them out and venting over them isn't misogyny. It would only be misogynous if we were to say all women were like this. (If someone does say this, then they deserve a verbal smackdown for it)
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The Adult forum is pretty much the men's forum. You're very welcome to start an online group just for aspie men, I encourage it. What's a queefster?

I imagine it's a reference to the sound made when air is forcefully expelled from the vagina due to the insertion of the penis or other object -- a 'queef'.

Honestly, D1nk0. The double-standard when it comes to sexism is distressing, yes, but attacking the 'other side' is not the way to go about fixing that.

I have seen his picture, I think he's the queef

Heh. I can't help but doubt he's ever heard a queef, if that's his usual persona.

I was about to respond with some wrath to that last quote of dinko's but decided not to. That's somewhat of the stuff I'm talking about. I don't think everyone is like that but I do find so much of it that it does get to me.

I've had some of those words used at myself in the Adult Forum when posting a topic but in a jokingly matter. I have to say though, it's not that funny to me and it often feels like my topics get ignored or aren't taken serious. I'm not saying it happens all the time or by everyone, but it's gotten to the point where I really don't see the reason to post questions or serious and personal stuff in the Adult Forum anymore.

I thought some guys would actually kind of relate to this as I'm not saying it's exclusively a female issue but about topics that are serious.

I definitely believe that menstruation is a private issue.

I am a guy, so feel free to ignore. Most of the posts in the adults only forum do seem to be juvenile and spammy. I think sex and adult issues are a sore subject for many aspie men ( and probably women too) because of difficulties in forming these relationships especially when society judges a guy's worth based on your success in this arena. It seems like many of the women on this site are more advanced than the men, which is really the opposite from what you see in the real world. The end result is a lot of immature flirtations and attention seeking from the guys.


Miss Construe, you may want to start a sticky thread in this forum and label it '18 and above only', or ask someone to create a subforum for 18 and older people only. That might help, though true privacy or serious discussion seems unlikely in an open forum that depends on an honor code for age and gender.

Miss Construe, I know what you're saying and I agree entirely. I'm not sure what can be done though.

As for there being a women's discussion, I think it's justified if only for the fact that we aspie girls are outnumbered by a pretty large order - on here and in real life - and we need to stick together!! I have no problem with men reading it, as long as they're a bit more mature and respectful than those that tend to post in the adult forum. LoveableNerd vs D1nko being a prime example of what I'm talking about.

Think I'm going to join that myspace group.

Can I joint it too?

I'm sure!

I'm making an alter-ego for it though, my myspace is slightly neglected but still a little too identifiable.

I have no problem with that.



and, (c) could have been lied on as well.



What if the person's a hermaphrodite?



Not to mention unenforceable.



As above.



Well, I've been known to do that, and I'm female... OR AM I?????????



Alex, get on that, will ya?

am dont use the adult board or the other adult one,but regulary use this one,and having males involved in female things doesnt bother am.
what about putting something like --female readers only in the title if really do not want males reading it.

I just made an anonymous myspack profile for the aspie group.

I would like to see a topc in the Adult Section taken seriously at least once in a while. It's hard enough for any topic to be taken seriously but the few women that do post there are treated like, well, like any other woman around a group of h**** guys. They basically get whistled at and anything serious they say is turned into something sexual, whether it was meant to be or not. It's hard for a woman to be a woman in the Adult Section. I do joke in there some myself but only if the topic isn't meant to be serious, and not just in the Adult Section. In any serious topic, I give serious responses. I do have a wild side myself but I know when it's appropriate and when it isn't. In the Adult Section, my jokes are about me only, I don't target anyone else. I know that some women don't like to be treated that way, I'm sure most if not all don't. Women would rather be listened to and taken seriously than be bombarded with rude, sexual comments.