Disadvantages of Being an Attractive Female (kinda ranty)

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Not complaining about her beauty but the people who would kill to switch places.

Yes, I'm complaining about superficial attitudes towards people and harmful behavior that tends to result from this superficiality.

Read more carefully next time.

I've been thinking about all this stuff to, trying to understand social human behaviour.

if you want it explained just think it all boils down to evolution.

I'm having this you tube to give my post more effect.
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At the end of the day we are all just products of natural selection, we are all just trying to breed and we compete with each other, release_the_bats that is why other women treat you bad because you are a threat.

In order to pass your genes on we must mate with more genetically successful people.

Attractiveness is one quality, because up until resently women have been second class citizens, that is why they get judged a lot on their looks. That is why they are obsessed with there looks aka fashion. Eating disorders, women are happier if they feel they are more attractive.

Attractiveness for men as well as looks is to be more masculine, taller bigger stronger males are more attractive.

Success is another one, that is why men are really competitive and women like men that are rich, sport stars, rock stars, smarter , social, talented etc... Like sport, what is the f*****g point of running the fastest jumping the furtherist winning at simplistic games.

Also we are pack animals, like dogs. The weakest is always driven and rejected from the pack, because weakness weakens the pack. Stronger more successful strengthens the pack, that is why people like successful more attractive people. So we all must conform to society and don't stick out to be happier, that is why attractive and sucessful people sell products on tv adds. People buy them, people conform to little groups.

Bla bla I could go on, but that is where the answers are.

But also it is worth remembering that humans have brains and can think beyond our instincts, we do show love and compassion to each other as well, so it isn't good to take a totally negative view on things. Being an honest true person is also attractive.

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There's a price for genius and one for beauty as well. Average is so appealing.

@Bats:

You have every right to complain as much as you like. I don't think anybody is saying that or wanting to take that away from you. But everybody wants to chime in, since this is kind of a universal gripe, on both sides of the aisle.

You sound like a lovely person and I am very sorry to hear that you are having difficulty with this. I know quite a few ladies who have been stalked, and a couple who have been sexually assaulted as well. But I can see the other side of the coin as well: the social factors and lack of caring and/or logical thought in society that grew these children into men who needed to stalk, rape or grope women because they are sexually/socially ret*d and can't relate to women in a mature, human way.

I guess what I'm saying is that, as a tip from me, if you try to see past the actions that bother you to the inadequacy that prompts them inside the man that, in the end, likes you and is kind of paying you a compliment (he just doesn't understand that he's doing it in a way that makes you uneasy), it might reduce the amount of stress that you have to go through. That's all.

As for men trying to get you to break up with your boyfriend, well, remember that they wouldn't try it if it hadn't worked at least once before on another girl. And boys do it far less than girls do, trust me. Also, boys do it out of necessity. Girls do it just for the sense of accomplishment.

I can relate to a lot of what you say release_the_bats

You have every right to have an opinion about your own looks, after all, it seems everyone else does!

I also grew up attracting male attention from everywhere, thankfully, I am middle aged now, nicely plump, going grey and largely invisible. I feel I can go outside without being noticed too much now, its a more peaceful existence.

I think we are supposed to be flattered by all the attention, in reality its intrusive.

The worst part I found was when I got to the point of wanting to rip my own face to shreds with my nails after a particularly long campaign of jealousy by a couple of females. Its no fun being left out of things because others fear their boyfriends/husbands etc might fancy you or you them. I don't have a lot of interest in dating or attracting a mate, its just not a priority of mine, correction, I don't have ANY interest in having a mate!

And, OH MY GOD, I just read your last post and I didn't know you had been raped recently. Rant all you want. Men suck.

Just my poem to SOS

OH HELL
WHERE'S MY GUN
I'M TONY MONTANA
YOU MOTHER f*****g SCUMS
C HO LLOL

Yeah agreed!

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Yes, some of us harder than others. Perhaps female beauty is an abomination and should be destroyed in every instance. Who was I to think beautiful women were worth anything? Pretty girls should be relieved of that burden by having their faces burned or disfigured. That would solve a lot of problems, I think.


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QFT. I know that some people had issues in the past and sometimes little things like compliments can be interpreted as something else other than a compliment if you've had anything traumatic happen to you in the past.

The only things that have annoyed me were the cat calls and unwanted attention which hasn't happened a lot...(I don't really consider myself attractive though, if you want the truth) but boys will be boys and girls will be girls. I notice that there seems to be a double edged sword when it comes to the disadavantegs period among women that are pretty or not among their peking order...that is the competition that goes on. I've seen a lot of that in schools and in my work places so women can be their own worst enemy as well.

I agree with what you're saying and I think we have our culture to thank for that although I think it's getting better..then again maybe not with all the media on the interenet sexual subjects mostly being that of the female gender. If a guy interprets what he sees into the media onto life, there's something wrong with him and sometimes this behavior is accepted as I've seen in many boards and sites.

I guess the only thing I can advise anyone on who's getting unwanted attention is be direct without being rude that you want them to stop. If they don't, sometimes being nice doesn't always help and you have to take many measures from there. I know after being nice to this guy who was friendly with me it got to a point where I had to threaten police on him because he followed me everywhere and didn't take what I politely said serious enough with "You're a good person and all but I'd like to be alone for now."

Again from the first quote, try not to let your past dictate your presence or those around you. I know that stuff like that can effect someone to a degree that becomes subconscious rather than voluntary. I've seen and experienced it myself. Sometimes people mean and then some people have ulterior motives.

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Ugly women get raped more often. But you are correct in that you have a right not to be harassed. regardless of your looks. I suggest you parade your boyfriend in front of people more often. Get engaged. Wear a ring. Have a kid.

Although being ugly is not the best idea, another ugly idea is to get some oversized pants and pad the butt so it looks like your about 50 lbs over. I think they sell silicone costume fat that you can buy. Fat turns off guys like a switch. Kids turn off guys too, but not as much as fat.

Bats the obvious solution is to your problem is to make yourself unattractive.

Wear unflattering baggy clothes that look really bad, get a bad haircut. Wear makeup but do it to make yourself look uglier, I don't know the rules but I'm sure they work in reverse.

But why should she have to do that? Surely men should be responsible for their actions. I know thats idealistic, but surely its a good aim.

Somehow the responsibility is always given to the woman to cover up or try not to appear too attractive. It doesn't say a lot for the maturity of some males or their intelligence.

Lots of attractive women have allowed themselves to put on weight or dressed in unappealing ways to dissuade sexual interest - it doesn't always work, I was chased around by a guy last year despite wearing the most covering, mismatching and unfashionable clothes I could find and not wearing any make up, jewellery, perfume etc and always wearing my glasses.

Y'know, sexual interest is what keeps the whole human race going, after all. All this talk of prett girls wearing fat-suits to decrease their unbearable good looks is straight out of the Kurt Vonnegut novel Harrison Bergeron. So silly, yet so not funny. A burqa would be less cumbersome than a fat-suit, I think. Pretty girls, hide your God-given beauty behind a Muslim burqa if that's really what it takes to placate you.

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She doesn't have to.



Well some don't.




Agreed!