Why do men do this? This not okay.

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13 Jan 2010, 10:10 am

"Learn" to ignore it. It's all s**t. They like to this when they're in groups to exercise their "imagined" male dominance. If one does this when he's alone, run away fast because that's a sign of real mental sickness...with rape on the mind.

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14 Jan 2010, 6:12 pm

I think in circumstances like those they are doing that stuff for each other.

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14 Jan 2010, 6:14 pm

harlequinsenor wrote:

They thought you were attractive and expressed it yet this angered you... no wonder I'm so afraid of girls.

You might be misunderstanding the fact that sometimes women feel physically threatened by this type of approach, especially when there are mulitiple males. Imagine yourself in a prison yard and a group of convicts starts yelling similar things at you...it might feel something other than just 'complimentary'.

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15 Jan 2010, 3:06 am

please please stop with the generalised commenting on male behaviour!! !! ! if some males of the species act like dumb asses that is just them! not all men.... I live in an awful coastal party town and the behaviour of some women would make the average person shriek with fear.... but this also goes for the behaviour of the men aswell, some people (yes people both genders) are just asreholes and have not the understanding and respect for their fellow humans, it is easy to ignore the idiots..but if someone is hassling you in that way, or causing you offence you can report it as a sexually motivated crime, but only if it is so and not in your imagination...

those that 'HATE' need to take a chill pill and come to realise that you may have a problem and not the ones you direct your hate at!! !! !

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15 Jan 2010, 7:40 pm

Snazzlestick wrote:

Not really because men are not judged on looks as much as women. However the problem isn't with any specific gender, it's with people being c**** to other people.

I call bullsh*t on the bolded part and agree with the second part.

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15 Jan 2010, 11:57 pm

alana wrote:

harlequinsenor wrote:

They thought you were attractive and expressed it yet this angered you... no wonder I'm so afraid of girls.

Exactly. It's freaking scary. And disorienting, to have random men suddenly yelling things at you.
Someone who wants to express that they like somebody might, hmm, talk to them? Or might try to talk to them and then get too nervous? Yelling things at someone is not an expression of just finding them attractive.. it's really creepy. It's also.. unpredictable.

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Snazzlestick wrote:

Not really because men are not judged on looks as much as women. However the problem isn't with any specific gender, it's with people being c**** to other people.

I call bullsh*t on the bolded part and agree with the second part.

She didn't say "at all" she said "as much as women." Men are sometimes judged on looks, but not in the same way that women are.

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16 Jan 2010, 12:02 am

Maggiedoll wrote:

Lecks wrote:

Snazzlestick wrote:

Not really because men are not judged on looks as much as women. However the problem isn't with any specific gender, it's with people being c**** to other people.

I call bullsh*t on the bolded part and agree with the second part.

She didn't say "at all" she said "as much as women." Men are sometimes judged on looks, but not in the same way that women are.

I agree we're not judged in the same way, but I disagree with the claim that women are judged more on looks than men.

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16 Jan 2010, 4:55 pm

Lecks wrote:

I agree we're not judged in the same way, but I disagree with the claim that women are judged more on looks than men.

I agree - women are very superficial. To demonstrate this, look at how many women with disabilities (such as AS) find men who can look beyond the surface and see the person underneath. Now look at how few many men with disabilities manage to find an understanding woman.

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16 Jan 2010, 5:03 pm

I agree with you. It's not OK.

What really annoys me too is that other people see it as acceptable and think I'm being unreasonable for objecting to it.

Apparently, sexual harassment is normal and harmless.

One time I was in a shop getting some sweets and I came out and suddenly I heard 'WHOOOOOOOOOOO!' right in my goddamn EAR. I was walking along totally in my own world thinking about one of my interests and I got such a shock. I whirled around and there were 3 guys yelling crude appraisals and leering at my body. Not my face, or shoulders. And I know this is an overreaction but I was badly startled and angry, and I looked the guy angrily in the eye and shouted 'You f*****g sick monster'.

I told my mother and she couldn't understand why I was annoyed.

But if you think about it, in any other context, shouting at someone you don't know and giving them a fright is usually called intimidation. So why is it okay for a group of males to do it to a young woman??

I don't know why they do it. There are plenty of guys out there who manage to be masculine without being A holes.

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16 Jan 2010, 5:06 pm

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Scream at them the following: "Would you like your picture on sexualharassment.com?"

Make sure everybody around them hears you.

Haha, excellent. I think I will start using this one.

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16 Jan 2010, 5:09 pm

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I've only just joined this site today and this is the first discussion topic i have read........... Is it just me being a very hard arsed individual or are the lot of you somehow more sensitive than my Aspergers will allow, because all i want to say to the young lady out there is "Why do you give a f***k?" I know you're young but life is full of poo and sometimes you'll step in it!! ! Get over it and them. As for all the sensitive men replying............. Yeah whatever, we all have an opinion why men act like idiots but then again opinions are like belly buttons...... We all have one but they don't hold much water!! !!

I think i'll like this site

I know but put yourself in her shoes. It's hard not to get frightened, men are bigger than women, and though it's usually just words, you can never tell if they are actually dangerous or not.

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