Why do we hate ourselves?

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I think I've found a reason why a lot of Aspies or autistics hate themselves. It's because a lot of us experienced, or have experienced at some point, NT people saying mean things to our faces and getting away with it, but we're always taught NOT to ever say anything to hurt their feelings. This rule often backfires, and as humans, makes us feel emotional towards it, causing self-loathing.

I had hurtful things said to me as a teenager, by my peers. They'd just say mean things to my face, and be totally unaffected by how I felt afterwards. I never said anything to upset them, but I knew that if I did, I would pay for it.
One time I got so fed up with being left out and isolated by mostly a girl in my class who hated me just for being an Aspie, that I told my brother. He got protective, and went over to this girl in school and gave her a piece of his mind for not giving a damn about his little sister's feelings. After that, this girl was even angrier at me. She said that my brother 'scared' her, and it ruined the rest of her summer. But what the f**k did she expect? How would SHE feel if I was mean to HER because of something she couldn't help? How would SHE feel if I socially isolated her and made her feel left out and alone? And how would SHE feel about ME if I was mean yet always accepted by the other girls, which she saw every day in school?

Being an Aspie is just not fair.

Kids learn to hate themselves when their parents are always hard on them.

I was a Challenged Social Communicator as a child. I had no self-awareness, so had no idea what others were thinking about me. So if there was any bullying, I was completely unaware. Other children were quick to see that I was different, very forgiving of my differences, and ready to volunteer help. So there probably was not any bullying to begin with. I also had no desire to do any bullying myself. So since I never tried, I also never "failed" to get away with it either. Either way, I saw no unfairness to cause me to hate either those that got away with it, myself for not being able to get away with it, or the people failing to uphold fairness.

My parents had high expectations of me but they were never being "hard on me", they always tried to be encouraging and supportive. So I was never taught to hate myself either.

I hate my autism because the same disorder that makes it hard for some to understand Neurotypicals, making them sad, nervous, or frustrated, makes it hard for me to understand any part of my world, making me nervous and frustrated about sensory input and changes in my environment or routine.

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31st of July, 2013
Diagnosed: Autism Spectrum Disorder, Auditory-Verbal Processing Speed Disorder, and Visual-Motor Processing Speed Disorder.

Weak Emerging Social Communicator (The Social Thinking-­Social Communication Profile by Michelle Garcia Winner, Pamela Crooke and Stephanie Madrigal)

"I am silently correcting your grammar."

One thing I hate about myself is being kakologophobic.

If it weren't for my series of unfortunate events, I probably wouldn't be this way.

Today's media being excessively vulgar, especially just for the sake of so-called "maturity", "popularity", or "coolness", doesn't really help matters, either.

I hate the fact that I cannot seem to let go of the past. If I don't, it will consume me (It already has)

I do not like the fact that I'm a human.
And I feel too human. I do not like it.

To me, autism is a function at best.
But so is whatever biological sex I had to deal, which is a more problematic issue for me to yet to solve.



Most common reason why an autistic hates themselves are because of how they are conditioned.
That they are wrong, weak, unworthy or 'inhuman' or whatever.
I do not care about whatever most people are conditioned to 'care' over. And if I do, I very much plan to unlearn all of it in this lifetime.

And as most humans, are 'social creatures'; they have needs that happened to involved survival via socialization.
Most autistics have the same social creatures bias as most humans do, and autism gets in the way to have that and therefore do not like the fact that they're autistic.
I even do not have that 'need' the same way most people do. Practically spared from that very thing, as a trade-off, I got no reliable external reference and had to figure it all myself in ways most people would never.

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