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You have saved the day! Do check out your heroics.

Sincerely, Ghosthunter
P.S....The wet cat adventure!

It has been quite recently I have been open
about autism. Remember the cashier at Borders
in S.F that inquired on the Autism book I bought
and she said she had Aspergers. Poor neurotic
thing! I told I have HFA.

I ran across her off duty and found out that she
works 3 days a week and has slashed her wrists.
She has been in a M.hospitol many times! We freely
talked about Autism and Aspergers and watched
how we did things subconsiously. I felt so freed
up in my autism that subtle thing occured.

I kept tapping her wrist to keep her from dodging
her eyes every 2 seconds. She stooped and looked
at her feet. I only read about flapping, and she
couldn't keep her hands and arms in place, thus
this is why I tapped her on her arms so she can
stay focused and she understood why! We didn't
have to explain the eye thing. I am much more
mature about this eye contact thing, she kept being
dodgy in it. She was 19, I am 39, maturity has
a role in coping and behavioural skills in my opinion.

I remember being 19 and flapping hands as a form
of expression so with a eye of compassion and
patience as a adult we were able to talk.

Fidgitiness, Oh! God! she couldn't stop fidgeting.
I am not that bad. Poor creature. Her biggest
worry is that they will figure it out and she will
lose her job.

My freeness to discuss autism in general has increased
and I do tell limited persons only if neccessary.

I ran across a lady age 64 at the Starbucks whos
daughter of 34 is in a state custody, and this 64
year old lady couldn't keep topic. She is very Autistic.
I did tell her of my HFA and it's borderline PDD-NOS.

I had to repeat myself many times since she couldn't
keep topic, and finally had to dismiss her because
her obsession was too much for my coping skills.

I introduced her as well as the girl to this site
and freely talked about my part in the autism
spectrum. I am amazed I survived these years
and can have a sense of stability that maturity and
freely expression to a limited amount of persons
to help them beyond this website and steer them
here.

I am thankful this site exists, because I forgot how
I was and freely encountering in a different perspective
has helped me see how I can, or could have been
percieved.

Mind you I do obsess but not as much, since I, through
freely talking about it seen perspective of how it can
be percieved.

No wonder I was chucked out of the Sci-Fi community
in San Jose, or Border's in San Francisco! My pre-
outing days and not freely discussing, thus bringing
awareness to myself and others must have been
terrible to experience. No wonder I am, I was, and
probly will be a bug-eye'd-alien but with compassion
and understanding in my heart, and god-bless the
lost souls that can help me as I help them, on this
web site and in physical encounters!

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

That's awesome, Ghosthunter. I'm really glad you found her - the girl at Borders, I mean. What was it like talking to her? Did it feel different than talking to most people? If you remember any more details or if you've done any more analysis of the conversation, I'm curious to hear it.

Mostly neorotic, paranoid, and was probly
sexually abuse by preditors of hers and older
age group. Remember my first and second
girls were in this level of consciousness and
I could see that sexual abuse was prominent!

I know by tapping her fore arm she would understand
this is too keep autistic awareness. If a stranger
did god-help-them!

She couldn't keep topic and if I have to repeat
myself I get into this ( ) state because
of being toyed with deliberately, or indeliberately!

She was stalkive!(not a word, but a description)
and this obsessive stalkativeness would lead
to my theory that if you have sex with her you
have a stalking person that you have made
a connection with in a physical way, the "Do
No f**k this creature" sign was ever present!
I know from having similar 2 girlfriends of this
nature!

If someone wanted a thrill-and-discard(probly
happened alot to her) she is prey.

Intelligent! Ooooh! Yes! but her convience
of it, I pity the creature! I was glad to shake
her obsessive tendencies. God-I hope I wasn't
that bad in my slut-puppy days(ages 20-24)?

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

P.S...Forgive the frankness I feel PG17 is appropriate
here since her autism wouldn't be better understood!

Yeh i find it a lot eesyer to talk online myself, and i no a few of my frends who have AS do as well. So it probably has sumthin to do with Aspergers

Ive told most of my frends. (the ones who dont have AS, that is - the ones who do allreddy new) Im not ashamed of having Aspergers, and personally i dont see the point in keeping it a secret. I dont still dont just tell evryone about it out of the blue cos thatd seem a bit wird: [completely dirfent subject] - "Oh, I have Aspergers!" lol. I just dont hold it back if it comes up in conversation. It can get wird thogh, cos they ask wot it is, and i have absolutley no idia how to explain it

I find this whole thing weird...
To me Aspergers is as much a part of me as my hair, witholding that information from people I talk to makes as much sense to me as witholding my name.

I don't mean I go out of my way to tell people.
::steps onto bus ::
"Hi,"
"Hi,"
"How are you?"
"I am good. By the way did you know I have Aspergers?"
"As-what?"
No, if it comes up in conversation, or there's an opportunity to talk about it, I do. I don't hide it.
I had more trouble telling people about my transgender tendencies, in fact I still haven't told my longest friend, though it's not a big thing anymore.

But that's just me, as I say, I am The Exception
Even if it is arrogantly pretentious for me to say so... :P

GA

A FEW?! !

Beau, Luke, Danny, Me, The other guys at club........

Alan, thats like half ur freinds. Thats more than a FEW.....

I think I am making up for lost time while I didn't know about my HFA.I've probably told everyone I know. But I guess that's not earth-shattering, since I don't know many people.
Only thing that gets to me, is that I've told my sisters and I thought they might want more info, or ask some questions, but they didn't.
Even my friend is uninterested.
I've just signed up to do a computer course, and I wrote about it on the enrolling form, so I will just have to wait for their reaction...
It'll never be the first thing I tell anyone about myself, though. I'm just not going to hide it either.

Err, chris, you dont no all my frends...

Actaully, as a matter of fact, i think only i no all my frends

I've told a few friends at my Clubhouse that I have it. Two of them didn't see me any differently than they did before I told them. The other person, who isn't really a friend, anymore started to treat me like I was half my age, and he twisted things around presumed that I was Intellectually Challenged, and he described my condition as being a horrible "Handicap", after I told somebody in Discussion Group that I detest the word, Handicap and why I do so. He also told me to kill my London Fixation, hide my Accent and be a real woman and make myself appear to be more Female.

Ugh. People.

I assume you stuck a spike through his testicles?? If not, Do it!

THAT THE DIFF BETWEEN AUTISM AND AS I HAVE AUTISM AND LEARING DISIBILITYS SO I NEVER BEEN ABLE TO PASS FOR NT

Why should you pass as NT?

GA

So that people dont bother you about it