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10 Nov 2025, 5:29 pm

MaxE wrote:

https://www.businessinsider.com/why-straight-relationships-are-doomed-according-to-sex-researcher-2020-12

A lesbian ranting about heterosexuals?

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10 Nov 2025, 5:33 pm

kokopelli wrote:

MaxE wrote:

https://www.businessinsider.com/why-straight-relationships-are-doomed-according-to-sex-researcher-2020-12

A lesbian ranting about heterosexuals?

Pretty much. These people are just busybodies who are probably unhappy with their own relationships so they have to attack others'.

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10 Nov 2025, 5:41 pm

Lesbian or straight, she is a university professor who is doing research and writing articles and books in her field.

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10 Nov 2025, 5:46 pm

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Lesbian or straight, she is a university professor who is doing research and writing articles and books in her field.

A lot of "research" that these people do is just them passing their opinions off as facts. The fact that we have fields like "fat studies" and "lesbian dance theory" pretty much proves that a lot of academia is bullcrap and there's a lot of people who just have way too much time on their hands. When the entire justification for your "research" is saying that you have a degree, the "research" is usually pretty empty and devoid of actual content. It's literally impossible to be wrong in these fields due to how subjective they are, and if you contradict what these people say, they'll gaslight you by saying that you don't have a degree in the field so you don't know what you're talking about. Might as well have a field devoted to "MGTOW studies" or "furry studies" while we're at it. It would be the same thing.

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10 Nov 2025, 6:12 pm

EmpireHonda wrote:

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Lesbian or straight, she is a university professor who is doing research and writing articles and books in her field.

A lot of "research" that these people do is just them passing their opinions off as facts.

It seems like you’re awfully quick to have an opinion here when you haven’t read Ward’s book. There’s lots of compelling research to use for a book that was inspired by the #MeToo movement. Academics often do cite it.

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10 Nov 2025, 8:08 pm

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I guess it is time to get in the old debate that men are actually equally involved in domestic abuse physically or emotionally. It is underreported since there aren't that many men's health and support groups that actively encourages men to share openly without shame what they are going through.

Prime example GBV or gender based violence only includes women and children. So what does this teach a boy? Oh when you get to be an adult, no one is going to care about you because apparently you will have it good in life and have male privilege. When in reality, everyone struggles. Ran by the corporate evil THE MAN which completely justifies why it is okay to pick on the single top man while the rest are actually also in distress. Then you have your good women, that don't even align with the media. Thanks, but it is not enough. Everyone should be protected, everyone should be able to openly talk about their abuse.

I'll point out that a vast majority of world leaders & people in positions of political power have been men as well as a vast majority of people who join the military to go off & fight wars in other countries & kill people they never met. Considering how much conflict there is in the world these days, it's extremely difficult for me to believe that men & women are equably abused by the opposite gender. That said there are LOTS of exceptions of coarse. I could understand how having same sex relationships as opposed to relationships with the opposite gender could potentially make relationships more equal, at least in theory anyway considering how men & women are often stereotyped as having different interests/hobbies & different sets of skills/strengths/talents.

I do completely agree that everyone should be protected & be able to have discussions about their abuse.

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10 Nov 2025, 9:04 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:

WHAT?!?

Should I re-think getting married then?

Please don't be so easily influenced. What does your heart say? What does your gut say? If you tune into them, you can trust what they have to tell you.

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11 Nov 2025, 2:10 am

MaxE wrote:

https://www.businessinsider.com/why-straight-relationships-are-doomed-according-to-sex-researcher-2020-12

Oh right well she must be right then if she's done a study on it

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11 Nov 2025, 2:22 am

If I had my time again as a single mother then I would definitely shack up with other like minded single mothers. Like a kind of woman's commune. Just simply for support

I've never found it easy to live with a man in a relationship but that's a personal thing to me and not because I don't think heterosexual relationships are worth it for other people

I mean it has also been researched about girls in schools getting along better in all female environments so why shouldn't it be the same for grown women in relationships

Everyone's different aren't they

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11 Nov 2025, 5:29 am

babybird wrote:

Living with a man is hard! !!

Even when it's just your brother and not a boyfriend or husband!

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11 Nov 2025, 6:00 am

I find living with anyone hard mate

I'm too much in my own world with myself

I think if I had a big house it might be different

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11 Nov 2025, 6:12 am

I see successful heterosexual relationships all around me to be fair

I think there are many factors that go into building a strong relationship: maturity, comparability, teamwork, communication etc etc

I mean if any of the main ingredients to a good healthy relationship is missing then I think you'll be in trouble no matter who you're shacked up with

I don't think the study is ground breaking enough to change the world

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11 Nov 2025, 6:48 am

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Yup

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11 Nov 2025, 8:38 am

babybird wrote:

I find living with anyone hard mate

I'm too much in my own world with myself

I think if I had a big house it might be different

I think that living with someone else, regardless of if they're male or female, and regardless of if it's romantic or platonic connection - that'll test friendships and relationships alike.

When I was at University, I lived with a guy who I've been friends with for a decade now. We lived together as flatmates for three years.

Now I understand the saying don't live with your friends. :lol:

The final year was especially tense, there was a lot of arguing and yelling. It wasn't because he was male. We fought over trivial stuff and it didn't help that the flat itself was quite small. You really notice annoying things about the other person when you're sharing a living space.

He went from being like a brother to me, to being more like a distant brother or a friend of a friend that I see during meet ups. We don't butt heads like we used to, now that we've had space away from each other. He's still my friend but I wouldn't want to live with him again.

I know two women who were in a lesbian relationship who ended up breaking up after living together. It's quite an important test, I think, relationship wise. Straight, gay, whatever, or even friendships; if you can live together successfully, that's a good sign.

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11 Nov 2025, 4:23 pm

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I see successful heterosexual relationships all around me to be fair

For now anyway.

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11 Nov 2025, 5:46 pm

This feels like deliberately polarising nonsense to me.

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