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29 Mar 2023, 9:48 am

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The first real girlfriend I had when I was 29 asked me out. I was getting ready to ask her our the same day, but she beat me to it!

Still, it is usually expected that the guy will do the pursuing and asking.


yes i easily see that being forever being one-sided, but glad i'm not alone in still feeling like a forever permanent incel due to being a late bloomer


some feelings sure are hard to shake! I didn't even realize that others had that same problem until I attended a Human Sexuality class a colleague was teaching to observe student presentations. One was on Incels. I never realized that there were enough of those to actually have a "movement". I thought I was the only one.



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29 Mar 2023, 2:15 pm

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The first real girlfriend I had when I was 29 asked me out. I was getting ready to ask her our the same day, but she beat me to it!

Still, it is usually expected that the guy will do the pursuing and asking.


yes i easily see that being forever being one-sided, but glad i'm not alone in still feeling like a forever permanent incel due to being a late bloomer


some feelings sure are hard to shake! I didn't even realize that others had that same problem until I attended a Human Sexuality class a colleague was teaching to observe student presentations. One was on Incels. I never realized that there were enough of those to actually have a "movement". I thought I was the only one.


ya and i know i will forever also feel jealous of women, because women are pretty much just guaranteed options and attention from the opposite sex for just existing, which means, they are less likely than me and you are to reach their later 20s, enter 30s and older without ever having dated, without ever having had a relationship.



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29 Mar 2023, 7:09 pm

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ProfessorJohn wrote:
The first real girlfriend I had when I was 29 asked me out. I was getting ready to ask her our the same day, but she beat me to it!

Still, it is usually expected that the guy will do the pursuing and asking.


yes i easily see that being forever being one-sided, but glad i'm not alone in still feeling like a forever permanent incel due to being a late bloomer


some feelings sure are hard to shake! I didn't even realize that others had that same problem until I attended a Human Sexuality class a colleague was teaching to observe student presentations. One was on Incels. I never realized that there were enough of those to actually have a "movement". I thought I was the only one.


ya and i know i will forever also feel jealous of women, because women are pretty much just guaranteed options and attention from the opposite sex for just existing, which means, they are less likely than me and you are to reach their later 20s, enter 30s and older without ever having dated, without ever having had a relationship.


You’re far from the only one with that jealousy, my friend.


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29 Mar 2023, 10:47 pm

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WantToHaveALife wrote:
ProfessorJohn wrote:
The first real girlfriend I had when I was 29 asked me out. I was getting ready to ask her our the same day, but she beat me to it!

Still, it is usually expected that the guy will do the pursuing and asking.


yes i easily see that being forever being one-sided, but glad i'm not alone in still feeling like a forever permanent incel due to being a late bloomer


some feelings sure are hard to shake! I didn't even realize that others had that same problem until I attended a Human Sexuality class a colleague was teaching to observe student presentations. One was on Incels. I never realized that there were enough of those to actually have a "movement". I thought I was the only one.


ya and i know i will forever also feel jealous of women, because women are pretty much just guaranteed options and attention from the opposite sex for just existing, which means, they are less likely than me and you are to reach their later 20s, enter 30s and older without ever having dated, without ever having had a relationship.


You’re far from the only one with that jealousy, my friend.


ya, if a guy has the mindset that women have it easy, he normally won't get sympathy, he will get labeled a victim or having a victim mindset, but if a woman thinks the same way, she is more likely to get sympathy, reminds me, i will never forget a certain quote or comment i read from some guy years ago, it still angers and pisses me off to this day, so much, that i know its not appropriate for me to post.



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30 Mar 2023, 12:54 pm

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some feelings sure are hard to shake! I didn't even realize that others had that same problem until I attended a Human Sexuality class a colleague was teaching to observe student presentations. One was on Incels. I never realized that there were enough of those to actually have a "movement". I thought I was the only one.


ya and i know i will forever also feel jealous of women, because women are pretty much just guaranteed options and attention from the opposite sex for just existing, which means, they are less likely than me and you are to reach their later 20s, enter 30s and older without ever having dated, without ever having had a relationship.[/quote]

I was also surprised in a nice way to hear about the MGTOWs. Here are men who are enjoying being single, not upset about it. They seem to be able to shake the stigma that comes with being a single man who isn't dating or hooking up.

If anything happened to my marriage I would most likely be single for the rest of my life, as I don't do so good with women. I could see it as time to really get back into my hobbies without other responsibilities preventing or interfering with them.



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30 Mar 2023, 1:51 pm

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I was also surprised in a nice way to hear about the MGTOWs. Here are men who are enjoying being single, not upset about it. They seem to be able to shake the stigma that comes with being a single man who isn't dating or hooking up.

The best way to shake the stigma that comes with being a single man who isn't dating or hooking up is to realize there is no stigma that comes with being a single man who isn't dating or hooking up.

Any stigma is in your own mind. 99.9 percent of people couldn't care less how you live your life.



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30 Mar 2023, 6:19 pm

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Some off-topic posts were removed.

Please, keep to the topic and don't divert the thread with PDAs.


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02 Apr 2023, 8:44 am

ProfessorJohn wrote:
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some feelings sure are hard to shake! I didn't even realize that others had that same problem until I attended a Human Sexuality class a colleague was teaching to observe student presentations. One was on Incels. I never realized that there were enough of those to actually have a "movement". I thought I was the only one.


ya and i know i will forever also feel jealous of women, because women are pretty much just guaranteed options and attention from the opposite sex for just existing, which means, they are less likely than me and you are to reach their later 20s, enter 30s and older without ever having dated, without ever having had a relationship.


I was also surprised in a nice way to hear about the MGTOWs. Here are men who are enjoying being single, not upset about it. They seem to be able to shake the stigma that comes with being a single man who isn't dating or hooking up.

If anything happened to my marriage I would most likely be single for the rest of my life, as I don't do so good with women. I could see it as time to really get back into my hobbies without other responsibilities preventing or interfering with them.[/quote]

im also a member of reddit, and feel tempted to agree with among the posts in the purple pill reddit



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03 Apr 2023, 12:44 am

How would you define what "Purple pilled" is?



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03 Apr 2023, 6:24 pm

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How would you define what "Purple pilled" is?


It's when you get your entire life's philosophy from D-12.


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03 Apr 2023, 6:56 pm

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How would you define what "Purple pilled" is?


i figure going on that reddit subreddit would help, but i also think reddit is male dominated



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04 Apr 2023, 12:34 am

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How would you define what "Purple pilled" is?


Swimming in blackberry juice would make you one.



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04 Apr 2023, 6:51 am

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How would you define what "Purple pilled" is?


i figure going on that reddit subreddit would help, but i also think reddit is male dominated

I thought it's breeder dominated. :lol: So much kid exposure.
No wonder my former friend loved it.


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04 Apr 2023, 6:58 am

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Please don't introduce topics such as MGTOW and the various pill color theories.

Discussions around these often generate misogynistic and other hateful commentary, and should have no place on WP.

There are plenty of sites off WP where those topics can be discussed - they should be used instead of our forums.


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10 Apr 2023, 5:51 pm

well people can't change my mindset, people are entitled and have a right to their attitude, mindset, but i know that for the rest of my life, i will always be jealous and bitter, resentful towards people who got to date, have relationships in their teenage years and early 20s



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10 Apr 2023, 6:30 pm

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well people can't change my mindset, people are entitled and have a right to their attitude, mindset, but i know that for the rest of my life, i will always be jealous and bitter, resentful towards people who got to date, have relationships in their teenage years and early 20s


I know how you feel. I've always felt resentful because all my cousins are NTs while I was the challenging child who was different and needed help. And as an adult I'm the one with the least friends. It's not fair, is it? It's not fair that some of us are born different while most aren't. It's like I won the genetic lottery really (not in a positive way though); having two NT parents, four NT grandparents, and 12 NT cousins. Nobody in my immediate family seem autistic at all. But somehow I managed to be born different. It's so easy to be born neurotypical, and it's so common, yet it couldn't happen to us. Not fair. :cry:


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