New Forum for Older Aspies

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I agree Bazza, I have noticed people dropping out of the thread because it is being dominated by those who CAN keep up with it. I just post with what ever catches my eye, any more, and a lot of the feeling of community is lost because we can't differentiate between just chatter and those subjects that need a bit of thought before 10 pages go by and it's old news.

I also get creeped out by innocently joining a thread of chatters and then realize I am like 40 years older than anyone they really want to discuss their lonely hearts issues with! I don't mind, but THEY sure do!

Ah, well, I suppose WP can't be all things for all people.


Merle

Yeah! and when am I gonna get called "MRS/MS so and so rather than my first name all my life.

I can hardly blame the young people, who wants to hear that others have been though the same situations and have actually learned from them? Aren't they unique? Especially children that have been told they were 'different' all their lives. Rarely have they met some one older that isn't an authority figure and even RARER someone with AS just like they have. They don't even have the excuse we are the "enemy NTs". And what is the deal with NTs as an 'enemy' anyway? I was in a thread where this guy was blasting the media for calling this CHO guy ( of the Virginia Tech massacre) autistic/AS cause it would tar us all with that brush, and there on his signature line was "Kill all the NTs!!" and I thought, what a disconnect!

blather, sorry, probably not the right thread for all of this.

MS Morrigan

Well, Ms. Morrigan, I for one appreciate what you have to offer. It is a great comfort to know that I am not the only one to go through what I have experienced. In fact, I would not know what to do if I actually was the first one to be in certain situations. I am no trailblazer.

oh Werbert, you are just trying to cozy up to me cause I caught you on my lawn!

but seriously, I didn't set out to be a trailblazer, but I am out there every day chopping a slash of bark off the trees as I go along in the forest to block out the path to those who come after. (see, I am from Oregon, where we know what trailblazing is!) I have a solid commitment to bring the deep dark secret of being AS into the disinfectant of sunshine and fresh air, so the generations that come after me will be less stigmatized and more accepted and yes, maybe even a little understood. May that day come soon!

But don't hang a big red superman S on my chest quite yet, as I didn't have a choice. It was literally do or die and I suppose I was clueless enough to just assume I was good as anyone no matter how many thought otherwise and just did what needed to be done.


Ms Morrigan

KBABZ: Ahhh, I was just asking about "KBABZ" as I thought it was a radio station. I don't pay that much attention to names. I do try to use them when addressing specific posts, but they fly right out of my mind when I'm done.

What would be a good, all-encompassing NAME for a forum that was to cover family issues (including extended family) and NTs and Aspies or other people in the spectrum? Other than "The Forum that covers family issues (including extended family) with NTs and Aspies and other people in the spectrum". That's a little too long.

It's not just parenting. There may be elder care (my mum recently died and needed care in that last few months, including stuff I was NOT prepared for and had NO idea what to do). During that time, it wouldn't matter where the advice came from, if it was helpful.

Yes, it's good to have separate general forums for ages. Simply because it can be useful to chat with others in the same age group.

Then again, we all have something to offer. I recall talking to a young man who was being hammered incessantly by people on an AOL message board. Because he was gay. I have no idea where all that negativity came from, but there must have been a rock quarry nearby, as a lot of creepy people crawled out from under rocks.

We chatted in mail and instant message. And got him to feeling better about himself. Eventually he asks me my age. Because in typical Aspie fashion, I bypassed all that silly introductory stuff and went right to the meat of the conversation. I told him my age. He freaked out. Said "YOU ARE MY MOM'S AGE!! !" I said "So?". Ya don't think that people that are your mom's age might be understanding? Or encouraging? Or kind? I said that belief was just as unrealistic as some of the beliefs that were used to attack you because you were gay.

I don't know what happened, but he did promise to talk to his mom about his life and his being gay. That kind of thing won't happen if all the people are separated, by ages, completely. That is why a "Family and Friends" forum would be handy. To break those stereotypes. And give each other our wisdom and knowledge.

I think it is a good idea, though I would hope that all the members would continue to mingle regardless of age... I cannot understand those who don't wish to interract with older members? I mean, when I was 11, my best friend was a lady in her 70s... I spent all my time with her. She taught me cards, and how to make jam and such things. I actually get on better with those younger and older than myself than anyone in my peer group.

So Alex when are we getting our new Dino-forum?

alex?

yooh, hoo. . .

Alex??

waves hand in front of face. . .


Merle


_____________________
And I believe in the future
We shall suffer no more
Maybe not in my lifetime
But in yours I feel sure

Paul Simon "Rhythm of the Saints"

Yes, Alex, I would very much like a separate forum for older Aspies, too, since the current Dino thread moves too quickly for me to jump on.

Dino Aspie Cafe now has 2424 replies, Kids Crater in total 2595. Its being caught up.

I usually stay out of the DA Cafe, its too crowded and subjects jump around too much

Yes, you're all welcome at the new thread for older/mature aspies, it's in the 'getting to know you' section, it's called 'thread for mature aspies II' or something like that. the existing cafe is clearly inadequate for the numbers of people interested, so i thought i'd start another thread....it's only a little thread at the moment.