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SOME TIME I WISH I COULD HAVE LIKE AT WORK PLACES .THEN NO ONE WOULD HAVE MADE FUN OF ME OR TREATD MRE LIKE I WAS RETAED .WHEN I WAS YOUNGER .I USE TO GO NUT IF MY MOM TOLD ANYONE .I UNDERSTAND NOW I NEED TO LET PEOPLE NO LIKE DR OR SITUION I WILL BE AROUND ALOT .AND SO I DONT GET LOOK AT LIKE I HAVE 2 HEADS

Ghosthunter, I'd be a bit wary about making assertations such as if you think someone has had sexual abuse, and especially vocalising such thoughts. You may be wrong, and, having showed her this site, she'll probably read that post of yours. Also, I wouldn't recommend tapping everyone's wrist when they dodge eyesite. Myself, I'd show you the door if you tried. Its not really a way of helping if they don't like being touched, regardless.

You may be correct! I was going by instinct
and observation of her character. I hope I
wasn't wrong, but what is done is done!
I did what I felt was right and have no personal
regret about it. I just hope I didn't make a
wrong asumption!



In my attempts to try to help people I can
make mistakes. I still feel regardless of
what was done is done that showing her
this site was still, and is still a good idea.



It was to help her keep focus and she seemed
to understand that. Hmmmmmm? I am not
perfect, and I do try to help people!



For all my good intentions, I agree and do
regret doing it. I did what I thought would
help her keep focus. Hmmmmm?

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

I AM HAVING A HARD TIME UNDERSTANDING YOUR REPILES .NOT SURE IF ANYONE RESPOONED TO MINE CUSE YOU TALK IN A WAY THAT OVER MY HEAD CONNFUSED AUTTI

It's a hard balancing act to make, whether or not to tell people. I pretty much didn't tell anyone as a kid. I wouldn't allow the school to disclose it to other kids either. It probably had it's disadvantages considering I had an integration aide anyway and the other kids would often treat me as though I were intellectually disabled. On the other hand they may have treated me the same way had they known I had 'aspergers' anyway and there might have been other nasties that they could do.

There might have been a few exceptions when I was a teenager, I vaguely remember telling an ex-girlfriend that I was breaking up with when I was 15. It kinda helped in that situation.

More recently I had it in my IM status message for a while. So pretty (but not many) were surprised because they didn't think there was anything different about me. Others were more like 'oh that explains it all'. Other than that, I still don't tell people that readily. For some people it just seems like an extra hassle having to explain it. In the end it's just a label anyway and I'm just 'me' (as some of my friends who didn't know I had AS would say to describe my quirky ways "don't worry that's just Jez".

Thats the main reeson why i dont tell peeple unless it comes up - i have no idia at all how to explain it

I've told my closest friends, and if nothing else, it explains my eccentricities to them. I also wound up telling a good friend of mine's sister the other week when I was rather drunk and having a random "deep and meaningful" at about 4am.

Danlo? Ghosthunter? The last 3 post?

huh????

I've told a few people (actually 3) and I've been surprised at the responses. Only one took what I said at face value, the other two immediately presented me with lots of reasons as to why I couldn't have asperger's and one of them got really quite hostile and defensive about it!

If I know they will understand, I tell them Otherwise, I probably wouldn't want to be friends with them.

I lost a couple of friends because of telling that I have AS and one is going out of her way to ostracise me at work and get other people to do the same. I think she is a bit batty.

On the positive side, I have made some new friends who are AS or related to people with AS and hope to develop these friendships further over time.

Ghosthunter, some stuff you've written worries me a bit. It's good that you would talk to this AS lady, but I'm not sure it's right to make assumptions that she could be a stalker. Maybe it's true, but people who would use and dump a vulnerable creature like that are worthy only of contempt.

If somebody touched my forearm to get/keep my attention, I suppose it would be okay but I would wonder why they were doing it.

autti34: What i suggest you do is confidently believe that you are not ret*d, but that you think differently from others. It is very difficult to change habits, so you should ask for patience among your friends and coworkers. Be patient and ask for patience.

And if it is very diffiult passing for NT then don't try. You should try to build a knowledge of when it is time to behave like an NT so you don't get into trouble, but in social situations, be yourself. Ask others what you can do to make them comfortable, and try to accomodate them. Tell others what they can do to make you more comfortable, and be patient with them.

That really depends on the friend... My best friend knows, not really because I've told her, but because she's a part of my life. My Aspie friends know because they are my Aspie friends! Anyone on my MSN list will have had the opportunity of witnessing my Aspie tags... *shrugs* But no, I don't usually go and blurt it out of the blue, unless there is a reason, aka meltdown!